Ladies: only answer this if you've cheated on your husband. 3 honest questions...?

Question

1. I suspect my wife is cheating on me, and I'm seeing enough that I'm becoming convinced. Ladies, what clues should I be looking for?

2. What is it that she could be needing that she's not getting from me? I give her whatever she wants.....I give her everything.....What were you missing?

3. If I confront her, will it stop permanently? Is she guaranteed to do it again or can she stop? - Thanks for being honest -

Answer 1

1. I don't know what the clues would be. Perhaps her going out without you more, or telling you she's going to the store and then coming back without any purchases or something! I'd say, your gut feeling is the best guide, follow it to get to the truth.

2. I don't know what she in particular is "needing" - sometimes it is just the "thrill" of the forbidden fruit that is attractive about an affiar; as great of a husband as you may be, you can never be that (a forbidden fruit).

3. There are no guarantees either way. I would say, if she made a choice to do it once - she is likely to do it again at a later time, when the dust settles.

Answer 2

Okay, I am one of those been there unkempt women that now takes a lot of pride in their appearance. First and foremost ANYBODY is going to feel better and less depressed even if they already are depressed if they will do the best with what they have and practice at least good hygiene. Then the more that they WILL and CAN do with their appearance will improve their self esteem by 110%. I am living proof of that and up until 3 months ago after 22 years of marriage I could go 6 months not put makeup and lied to the world and myself that I was comfortable with it. Now I won't so much as go for a jog without at least eyeliner and lipstick. My marriage has gotten a much needed boost. I probably do, no, I know that I do have a husband that loves me unconditionally and will stay with me through thick and thin but that is no good excuse to let him look at a hag because of it. I like myself a hell of a lot more and if people are going to be haten on you for your question don't worry about it because there maybe a few that might realize that they resemble your remark and do something about it and be thankful you posted it. If there is any correct place to ask something of this nature, this forum is most certainly it. More of my 2 cents....This has just gone over some of these peoples heads, this is not about hating or judging for most it is actual concern. I wished I had woke up years ago.

Answer 3

1. She completely does a body makeover, stays away from home more, phones rings you answer it hangs up, Finds excuses to go visit friends, etc. her lovemaking slacks off. she stares into space a lot with a look of discontent 2. She needs what a lot of women need a different kind of sex partner. she is tired of the same old thing all the time, 3. No, if you confront her she may leave you, if a woman wants to cheat their isn't a thing you can do to stop them. She has usually found a man she loves more than you. Try to stop her and your waisting your time.

Answer 4

You sound like a great person and I am sorry that you have to deal with the painfully feeling of being betrayed it..I could only tell you to confront her, tell her you know everything and from there you should see where the love for you actually is..Don't hide your true feelings, it is OK to show that you are unhappy..maybe the best of all is to have a time off from each other,where she can see how is to leave without your presence, your attention, your affection,your carries,..she cheated on you, now you are not the only one on her mind anymore...I am sorry,..good luck though

Answer 5

I'm just a guy who has never cheated nor been cheated on (i hope) but I felt I had a genuine answer to one of your questions.

something she might need that she's not getting from you is the thrill of sleeping with another man. It might make her feel good even though you can make her feel good but in a different way.

If you confront her about it, we really can't answer that because that's in the future and it's an area of the future that we can't predict yet as humans. she could do anything from leave you, to hate you, to loving you more, to telling you she's a lesbian and she's been cheating on you with her. She might do it again, she might not. We don't know her as well as you do. We don't know her or you at all.

Answer 6

She's probably been trying to tell you for a long time that there is a problem, and exactly what that problem is. Is there anything you have been ignoring or pretendng not to hear, or not taking her seriously when she tries to talk about it? I know that my ex just called it nagging when it was a really serious issue for me and I ended up deciding that he didn't really care about me if he wasn't bothered that something was really upsetting me. (in fact he used to joke about it and that really hurt) In my case, an old saying was true 'A man leaves a relationship for another person, a woman leaves a relationship for herself'
I am really sorry if you are hurting right now, its a tough situation, but you can bet that your wife has been hurting for longer. Good luck. Its always hard to face up to things like this. I hope that, whatever happens, you can both be happy in the long term.

Answer 7

1) Is she gone more often?

2) She needs new attention on her, I missed attention, I missed someone telling me I was hot, etc. Sometimes its not the husband's fault, sometimes, a woman just needs that ego boost.

3) If you ask her she will deny it. I am sure of it. I never admitted it until we actually filed for a divorce.

Answer 8

1. is there a change in the way she feels when you both have sex. after awhile the vagina will almost mold to your penis and if you feel that it is different then that could be a good clue.

2. it could just be the thrill of sneaking around

3.it could stop permanently or she could just leave

Answer 9

1. dont know
2. material isnt everything...women need emotion, not beer and football, we need to be needed, or maybe the opposite, she needs space, are you smothering her
3. depends on the reason she is cheating in the first place, but yes it can stop permanetly, it did here, get to the root of the problem its deeper than what shes gettng or not getting