i want to break out of my shy shell. I'm quiet and shy and have trouble expressing myself. When people talk to me i usually cant think of anything to respond with so i just nod my head or laugh or sumthin stupid. i dont kno what to do.
2006-12-21 10:37:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i have no problem at all talking to adults. Maybe it is because i care to much about what people think of me. I just want to break out of it because I am not getting the attention or friends that i want to have.
2006-12-21 10:47:39 · update #1
I have this same problem. Everyone has a talent....find yours. It may be that you are a good listener. Some great talkers are not good listeners. Maybe you are better talking to just one person...that is ok. Not everyone can be good at the same thing or else life would be boring! Sometimes it helps to "practice" on older people who are lonely...they are fine to just be with somebody. If you say something "stupid" they are just fine with that....and then you can build confidence. Find things you are really good at and remember those...... If people say things mean to you they have the problem...not you.
2006-12-21 10:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by bethybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was so horribly shy that I even fainted at my job interview. Talk about embarassing. That same employer hired me. He's a dr so maybe he had some insite of my problem. What helped me though was working with the public. I give a lot of instructions at my job so I don't really have to get feedback much unless it's a question. I don't mind answering questions. With time in doing that I built confidence. Now, I talk so darn much I even get in trouble sometimes. Go figure.
2006-12-21 20:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-21 18:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not be so worried about what other people think of you, if you knew how seldom they did.
Quit thinking for other people and judging yourself harshly. Let your beautiful personality out.
Make it all about others, not yourself. Put the focus on others, not your fear, your discomfort, your insecurity, you you you.
Give other people your attention. Give them your admiration. Your appreciation, recognition, approval.
We all want to be noticed, We all want to be liked and admired. We all want attention and recognition. We all want the approval of others.
Give all that freely and without condition. Even if you don't feel they deserve it; even if you have to fake it for a while.
You will make someone's day by simply noticing them or admiring them. People will feel good about themselves around you and they will want you around.
You will feel good for making someone's day. You will feel more popular and welcome.
Most people are so self absorbed, if you helo a conversation for an hour and never talked about yourself, they would feel like they really got to know you. All because you made it all about them.
So do that. Make it all about other people. You will feel really good once you do it.
Break tha ice with a compliment. Ask people questions about themselves. Draw them out, put them at ease. This will make you more at ease, too, because you will be "directing" the conversation. Make it like an "interview".
Hang in there sweetie, being extroverted takes practice. We all have some social anxiety to some degree or other. Just put yourself out there and focus on other people. You'll do fine.
It helps to remember that list of what we all want. Give all that to other people, and it will come back. I promise.
2006-12-21 20:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice making light but interested eye contact. Don't stare people down, and of course know when to look away, but definitely get used to watching someone watch you. Get comfortable while your doing it, relax and listen and wait for their energy to inspire you, or vice versa. It's probably science or something, but all you have to do is not hide your eyes. It's okay if you think people see fear there, just don't look down because of it. Think of it as a game and soon it'll be so natural that you'll think there must be something more to it, but guess what, there really isn't.
2006-12-21 18:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Soundjata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be a shy girl...not anymore no one would belive me now though. "Ya right, she used to be a SHY and QUIET little girl" well just this year i became very talkative. i have no idea why. i just kinda grew out of my shyness. just know that tlking to people is something you've gotta do. forget your worries about what anyone might think just open up and talk, laugh and enjoy!
2006-12-21 19:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Fall Out at the Disco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had this problem, and broke out it a lot when she joined a martial arts class (she was ten at the time). Join a beginner class like that and it will help.
2006-12-21 18:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ giD∑■η ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shyness can be somehow lessen when u learn from urself on how to accept the mistakes u make... its one of the main basis why people is shy... I DO ADMIT IM A SHY PERSON but then, I TRY MY BEST TO ACCOMPANY A CERTAIN PERSON TO REGAIN MY CONFIDENCE...
2006-12-21 21:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by DeathNote 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a circle of influenece the can mentor your life
help define who you are and you will open up when your comfortable with yourself.
2006-12-22 10:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋