I Like A Married Man What Should I Do ?

Question

okay i thought i was resolved but its not i like this married man alot , but i know thats its wrong , but only thing he wants for me is sexual favors and im not that type of girl , and he is in his early 40s im about to turn 20 and every time i see him y heart start pounding and i work with him, what should i do to make him see me for me and not of my body and not for pleasure? give me your thoughts and ideas

i havent did anything with him

Answer 1

Stay away from him. You want to be known as the "other woman????" Give me a break.....

Answer 2

I am glad to see that you didn't have sex with him. Please don't do it. Like someone else said, he will only see you as an sex object. Since you all work together, try to avoid him by speaking to him only (hello and goodbye). Only talk about work related things and he would get the picture. If he doesn't than nicely tell him that you no longer wish to participate in any sexual conversations with him. If he asked "what's wrong or why"? Let him know that you do not have to explain anything to him for he is old enough to know the reason why. If he continues, then report it to a supervisor or human resource person. You are very very young and falling for someone whose married will cause you a lot of problems, headache and hurt in your future. Find someone more on your level (young, no wife, no children) and move on. This man means nothing by you.

Answer 3

1. If you're not that kind of girl, then this should not be an issues for you.

2. He is not going to "see you for you." He's made it clear that it's all about sex.

3. Not to sound condescending, but he's a forty year old man making a play for a woman old enough to be his daughter. If this were your dad acting like this, would this be OK with you?

4. You have the hots for him, hence the pounding heart.

5. The answer should be a no-brainer, but here's the truth of the matter: You will never, ever get from him what you want. You will jeopardize your job, your health and your self esteem if you don't bring this to an immediate end. I guarantee you he will move on as soon as he finds someone else to pursue; once he's gotten you, he'll get bored with you and you'll be old news. Why do you want a relationship with a man who doesn't respect himself, his wife or you?

IF YOU'RE NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL, THEN ACT LIKE IT!

Answer 4

Don't let this man ruin your life. You are only 19 and have a lot to experience in life and this man is in his 40s so he has already lived. He knows how to seduce someone and will make you feel special. But you already know that he just wants you for sexual favors. Don't fall for it, or you will feel bad about yourself in the end. Ignore those feelings you have when you see him at work and focus on someone else who is interested in more than your body. Stay away from the married man.

Answer 5

Imagine that you are married to someone. Now imagine that your husband works with this 19 year old girl who likes him and gives him sexual favors. How would you feel? There is a third person involved here that deserves to know the truth. Call her and tell her that her husband is a dog, and that he is into sex with you, a 19 year old girl. After his divorce, if he's still interested in you, go for it. Chances are , he will never commit to you any more than he's commited to his wife. This man stood at an altar and made vows to this woman. he told her he loved her, and promised to love , cherish and to be faithful- and she believed him. Very sad.
Every time you see him, he should make you sick, because he's less than human.

Answer 6

Don't fall for him. A friend of mine fell for a married man is paying for it like never before. My friend's boyfriend left his wife and their relationship has been down hill from the time he left his wife. The man is verbally abusive and does not trust her (well they don't trust each other). They are having all sorts of problems and both are extremely unhappy. He has even compared her to his ex-wife one or two times. Nothing good ever comes out of relationships that starts this way. So, as someone said, find someone whose on your level and don't entertain his conversations (only work related) at work.

Answer 7

He will not see you as you. He has already expressed to you that he wants sex so that is all he will see you as. If he say differently, he is lying. Not to many married men leaving their main squeeze (wife) so don't even think about it. You are very young and he is old enough to be your Dad. Move on to a real relationship and to a young man that will respect you and just don't want sex.

P.S. If you were married, would you like for someone and your husband to sleep together?

Answer 8

Stay away from the man. He is trouble.Find someone who isn't married and another thing, I believe that he is too old for you.He is only using you for sex.You do not want to be the other woman. You can do better than being with a married man.

Answer 9

You shouldn't do anything to make him see you either way. Remember, he is a married man and twice your age. And, if you do happen to get involved with him, he's only going to be looking at other younger women. Think about this, what if you get involved with this guy? Are you willing to confront his wife and explain why you're trying to take her husband away from his children?

Answer 10

Okay, you know it's wrong. Your trying to do the right thing. Good for you!

Now, what you are feeling for him is animal magnetism and lust. Nothing more, nothing less. It is natural and normal. However, what you do with your feelings is what is important. Do not act on them. Try to keep your distance from this man. If he speaks to you inappropriately say in a calm and clear voice while looking him in the eyes, "You are a married man, and I am not interested in your advances. Do not speak to me again concerning this matter."

You are strong, you are respectable and you will be a better person for rebuffing his advances. Good luck, I know you can do the right thing.

Answer 11

Stop sleeping with him. He'll either start looking at you for You or he'll go away. Either way, you win!

Remember that you have no control over his behavior. You can only change your own behavior. When you change your behavior others may change their behaviors. It isn't a given and it isn't always the behavior change you want.

I would like you to think about what his behavior is saying also. If he's sleeping with you then what kind of respect is he giving his wife? If he's sleeping with his wife, then what kind of respect is he giving you? Do you deserve someone who gives you this kind of respect or disrespect?