i do,i feel when your truly in love with someone and you do or give them something you should'nt expect anything in return.If you do then you have expectations,you don't love that person.I feel when a man loves a girl he should give his paycheck to her and not wonder what she's doing with it.
2006-12-21 10:27:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should each give 100% so that you will have 200% total. That way when one of you is not able to give their full 100% due to stress at work or what ever, the other person is still giving and making up for it.
2006-12-21 10:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"True love" does not exist in a vacuum. It is usually tied to expectations and goals. Many people's goal is to have a meaningful relationship with another person, to have companionship, to have a family - I don't think you can view these things separately from "love". In this light, it's only reasonable that there are certain expectations of your companion - mutual attraction, respect, compatibility. I think it would be absurd to declare that for the love to be "true" you can't expect anything from the relationship; for that to happen, you would almost have to cease to be human. But I do agree that you shouldn't "expect" or demand more than your chosen partner can provide. You either look for a different partner - or else accept the one you're with.
For the record, I don't want to be in charge of someone else's paycheck... It is my husband's "job" to make the money and to see to it that it is well-spent!
2006-12-21 10:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally disagree. Love is about mutual respect, concern and trust. It's unrealistic not to have expectations. I expect my husband to care for me, respect me, honor me and be trustworthy--and I give the same in return to him. This does not mean that I don't do things for him just to make him happy, because I do. Love is reciprocal by nature; if you don't get anything in return (acknowledgment by the beloved, sense of satisfaction, whatever), then it's just an obsession or a compulsive disorder of some kind.
2006-12-21 10:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because of the make up of the human psyche, it is IMPOSSIBLE to give of yourself 100% and totally unrealistic to expect nothing in return. Think about it. If you asked your lover a question, wouldn't you expect them to answer? If you woke up every morning and your lover looked the other way...you'd leave.
I believe that the definition of true love is to truly know someone...good, bad and ugly and to remain their friend, to understand them, to support them where they are weak, to laugh and rejoice with them in their successes. Love means enjoying and giving, but it also has a lot to do with tolerating the other person when things aren't going well.
You expectations that a man should give his paycheck and not wonder where it goes is WAY unrealistic. Essentially, you are negating RESPECT. Two people should respect each other enough to 1)share resources freely 2)share information freely 3) share respect freely. That my friend is real love.
2006-12-21 10:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by crazyonthebus 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you start talking percentages you're not talking about love. Scorecards are kept for games, not love.
Instead of worrying about who controls the paycheck, sit down and make a plan for how the paycheck will be used.
2006-12-21 10:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should give your all to the person you love as long as they give you the same. I'm not saying when one does something the other owes anything but love works best when it is coming from both of yous
2006-12-21 10:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between loving someone and trying to buy them. In love you are looking out for their best interests ahead of your own, but you cannot just go blindly along.
2006-12-21 10:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - but it's not realistic. We all fail and fall short of expectations. I expect love in return and respect....love is not unconditional unlike popular thought. If you love someone you will help them - when they are irresponsible and reckless - love does not cater to that. Love does not put up with abuse. Love is strong not weak and letting people walk all over you.
2006-12-21 10:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a relationship should benefit both parties- making each party better then the individual alone. If a person makes decisions blindly then the couple as a whole may suffer.
2006-12-21 10:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by girlinlove 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little different.
I love my man with everything I have whether he gave me anything in return or not. BUT I still expect him to! I don't do jerks, y'know?
2006-12-21 10:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Nog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋