I love my boyfriend very much but I felt I was making a lot of the effort in the relationship. He is my soulmate. I upset both of us the other night in a tantrum of tears. It was just a build up of niggling things. I ring him more often than he rings me, and I make a lot of effort with organising things for both of us. Also he hasn't introduced me to his family yet, I am with him over a year. He is a very genuine guy and a bit quiet and deep. So I don't get to hear his plans, also he is laid back in some ways. However I think we are getting on v.well but I had an outburst the other night, I must have been frustrated etc. I have apologised and he said not to worry about it. How can I make him understand that I trust him with all my heart and love him so much. I'm worried that he now thinks I am a out of order. It was out of character for me, I have upset us both for no reason and now I am worried that I ahve rocked the boat between us. Any advice? Thks.
2006-12-21 10:10:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its normal to have a fight now and again, forget and move on
2006-12-21 10:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by jinx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't upset him for no reason, you upset him because things were on your mind. What you need to ask yourself is, are these things that can be resolved? Are you prepared to stay and be happy with him if these are things that will not change? Otherwise the niggly things will build up and this situation will carry on.
When you have answered that, you will decide if he is right for you or not. If you want to stay and bring up the outburst, apologise again, but tell him it wasn't just a silly tantrum. You may have overeacted, but you would like it if certain things can change. Have prepared in your mind what you will do if they won't, and if you can be happy.
2006-12-21 10:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, eh? I think things should be okay, you said you apologized. Still, you wouldn't have done it in the first place if there weren't things that made you anxious about the relationship's future, right? At least now he knows. See if he makes more of an effort, but don't be surprised if he doesn't exactly pull a 180. Plus, ladies seem to be more of the plan makers in a couple normally, anyway. That's sweet that you are worried about it, but honestly at least you got it off your chest and made him aware of some of the things that worry you.
2006-12-21 10:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you 2 have been dating for a year he thinks the relationship is serious, he's probably forgotten it already if you've apologised. Explain to him that its been a build up of emotions that you've been going through, and you accept that it wasn't expressed properly but you needed to say what you felt at the time, even though you might not have meant them.
Have a great Christmas,
don't worry everything works out for the best even if it doesn't look like it at the time.
2006-12-21 11:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by ellegrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about my ex: a million. i develop into not in any respect in love with him; I in effortless words cared for. (Nor have I loved each person) 2. His buddies were finished jacka@@3S. 3. I informed his brother that he had to finger me contained in the sea. 4. i'd not in any respect have idea to lose my virginity to him. 5. His brother "loved" me. 6. His mom hated my guts so i had to throw a wrench at her. 7. i develop into/AM too sturdy for him. 8. I hate how he has no ambition nor route in lifestyles. 9. I knew all about the different females. 10. I couldnt believe him a million/3 of the time yet he made me believe that i develop into particular so I stayed. SO SO any such vast quantity of more beneficial.
2016-11-28 02:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do feel that way (which most peoples anger shows the true side) then you really dont accept him for the person that he is. If he is this reserved then you need to accept that. If you apologized there is nothing more you can do. Words or actions can not be taken away once they have already been done.
2006-12-21 10:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Believe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will understand. My question would be - why hasn't he introduced you to his family yet after a year. That would really get me thinking. That is not natural.
2006-12-21 10:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the more you love someone the more passion you fight with. its only natural. I thnk a dinner, bottle of wine, sincere apology and a nice little festive negligee will be perfect. what man could say no to that and anyway, as you said it was out of charachter. no one is perfect and we are all allowed a little slip of tact now and again. your human girl,. now go use that body!!!
2006-12-21 10:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by cookie 85 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop being a girl...if everything is fine, and he genuinely treats you with kindness and respect, then SHUT YOUR MOUTH...stop freaking out on the man or he'll walk away...people are not gonna put up with your little panic attacks
2006-12-21 10:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by j c 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is reassure him and make sure you communicate all the time so that your resentments don't build to such a crescendo again.
2006-12-21 10:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by katieplatie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont meen to sound horrible,but are you sure hes not married or seeing someone else,has he got a family and if so why has,nt he let you meet them,if i were you i would have a serious talk to him. good luck
2006-12-22 05:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by LYNDA M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋