I'm 18 and a freshman in college at Ohio State and I was a virgin until two weeks ago. I was at a house party and I was drinking (I know I know I shouldn't have been.) Anyhow this guy started making out with me and one thing led to another and before I knew it we were in a dark bedroom in the back of the house and he was on top of me. I tried to get away and struggled for a bit but he was bigger than me so I couldn't. I wanted to scream out for him to stop but I didn't. When he was inside me it hurt so much I can't even describe. When it was over I was crying and he just left the room. I feel like this scrumbag ruined my life. I was saving myself for marriage. Now all I think about is that I want to die.
I found out who he was. He's a star player on our football team. If I report this it will make the news. Maybe even national news becuase I've been told he's really, really good and a lot of people across the country know who he his.
I just don't know what to do.
2006-12-21 10:09:47 · 14 answers · asked by boob girl 1 in Sports ➔ Football (American)
I'll pass on your question.
But you signed up here to ask about this and chose the name boob girl?
Readers, draw your own conclusions.
2006-12-23 14:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by wwwwwwwfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask the question of yourself "If this was my mother, sister, or later, your daughter, what would you tell her?"
It does not matter who it is that did this to you, from what you describe it is rape. You should not have been there and you should not have let it gone this far, but if you don't come out with it how will other girls know that this can and does happen all the time, and that they need to not put themselves in such circumstances. If he did this to you, who is to say that he hasn't done it before or will do it again.
You should talk with a lawyer and state that you want to know your options of how you can prove it before you file.
2006-12-21 10:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, tell someone, call the cops, do something, if he wouldn't let you go it's rape, don't think your life is over, but do get tested for HIV and pregnancy, but seriously your life is not over, you're only 18 it just began, you can have that guy arested and stuff, but sadly this will haunt you for the rest of your life, don't become a burnout or drunk to hide the pain or anything either, hopefully you're not pregnant, but if you are, please don't have an abortion, you might be thinking, "what the heck do you care" well I do, and that's that, tell someone you KNOW you can trust to, and like that one guy said "NO", "STOP" works too.
2006-12-21 10:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rape. If you tried to get away, it's rape. Even tho you didn't say anything, you tried to get away and it meant "NO". You really need to go to the police and file a report. Rape is Rape. If you don't report it, it will scar you for a long time. If you do report it, you will feel much better. God Bless you, and i'm so sorry to hear what happened to you..........The idiot who did that to you should be locked up for the rest of his life, or put to death. I can't stand rapist.
2006-12-21 10:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jeremy Medlock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should definitely get some help, a psychologist or school counselor, second i think that regardless of how good he has been, you never know, this may have, or may happen again, and if it did or does and every one keeps hiding it a lot of people could get hurt. Be honest about it, and find someone objective to talk to.
2006-12-21 10:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by bill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like an episode of a TV Show. Not to say you are lying. Sure, if you really didn't want that to happen, and you made it very clear to him, then it was Rape. What's happened has happened. Don't look back. Do whatever you feel will be best for you to move on.
Good Luck.
2006-12-21 10:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow i want to know who this is. i say you have to tell even though he is a star football player. you might need to wait until after jan. 8 .
this would be the biggest sports story of the year.i feel bad for you. hope you make the right decision.
2006-12-22 01:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't say the word NO then this won't hold up in court. Anytime someone is doing something to you that you don't want done, then you need to say the word NO and scream, fight, claw, etc until you get them to stop or get someone else's attention.
I am sorry this happened to you.
2006-12-21 10:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 01:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait until after 1/8/07 to tell.
2006-12-21 13:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by mister ss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋