married for 12 twelve yeard husband doent care for feelings and he only wants to talk sex?

Answer 1

Really!!!
How many times do you give it to him?
Do you care for his feelings if it is just sex that he wants?
Apart from sex what about other things? Are you happy with the way you live? Has he fallen for some other woman? Has he stopped loving you(I am sure not otherwise who'd be so crazy to have sex with his woman after 12 years of marriage).
Ask yourself these questios ad maybe you'd find the answer honey.
Your loving husband :)

Answer 2

It's a good thing he only wants you to TALK about sex and not WRITE about it. You doent spel so goud. Are you Chinese?

Anyway, First I should say that you should be proud that your man wants to still do the bump and hump with you after 12 years. That's pretty impressive there. You must be Hot and Nasty. I still am thinking Asain Chick. Hmm. Anyway, sounds like he either doesn't value what you have to say or you are speaking about stuff that he really doesn't care about. See that's what happens. Guys don't really make a big deal about everything that happens in a day. A lot of women do. (Example: Her- Can you BELIEVE that the line in the post office was sooo long, I was so mad and everyone was mad and why didn't they have more people working?!! Him thinking-Are you fu*king kidding me. who cares?)
See not everything is a story, hassle or even interesting. It's not that we do not care about you, it's boring after awhile. So what I have noticed, is that the ladies feel that this reaction means that the man doesn't care about them or their feelings. Not true. They just do not care about the story. Here is my suggestion. Find some common ground. Try to think about what you both like and start talking about it. (besides sex) When he does start to respond, give him a little "you know what" for the effort. (send me the pics!) This works for me everytime. Let me know how it works out for you. And if you must talk all the time. Keep the stories focused and short. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

That's terrible. If all he wants to do is talk sex then is that all he wants to do? If that's the case and you aren't into sex that much then you shouldn't be with him. My husband doesn't care for sex all that much and I don't ethier. Sex shouldn't be the only thing in a marriag if that's the case then you might as well go prono. You should have feelings and do other stuff together. If you don't feel the same way that he does then why are you with him? It's different if you did feel the same way.

Answer 4

Some people feel loved with flowers, some with weekend trips, some with cards and some with sex. He just might be someone who feels connected with sex. Its not a bad thing he is just wired that way.

I think many spouse's forget that just because we are married to each other that we aren't the same. He may need sex to feel loved.

Answer 5

Hear him out ... and once hes done then you need to ask him why is this the only thing we can discuss... tell him you need more emotional support..and a chance to share your feelings... Beleive it or not most Men Do NOt Know How To Have A Conversation. Remember Men and Women speak very differently.

Answer 6

So why are you staying in this relationship?

I sure hope it isn't "because of the children." Children deserve to live in a home where the adults are happy and the environment is free from stress. And that doesn't sound like it describes your marriage.

My parents were in an abusive relationship, and it helped me to make a decision: I would never allow myself to remain in a relationship that made me unhappy. Life is too short for that.

Answer 7

1. Its a gud sign that he comes after you for sex.
2. Men normally avoid listening to long stories what girls normally keep telling.
3. Start giving him pleasure.. but not 100%. Keep him hungry for the next time.. ALWAYS !!!
4. he behaves like this because he is a normal man.. of course he must ask for S** in proper way..
5. Best of luck. :)

Answer 8

No other topics interest him? Hmmm....I'd wonder if he was entering a mid life crisis.

Have you read the book the five love languages. I think communication is lacking in your marriage and that book has some good ideas. Give it a read and see what you think. The book details how people interpret love through behavior.

Answer 9

you need to tell him to shape up or ship out, you don't need to stay with someone who doesn't care for your feelings. See what men do not realize is if they spend a little time caring about our feelings and putting in the effort to make us feel special they would get all the sex they wanted. Its not rocket science guys, you learned this as a child - good behavior reeps rewards, bad behavior reeps consequences- easy.
Talk to him about it and if he doesn't work on it then i would leave him...maybe he needs the shock of loosing you to realize what he's risking

Answer 10

He's a jerk. My advice is to not seek a divorce unless he's been unfaithful, but you can't allow him to go on using you, either. I'm a man, BTW.

Counseling will not help. Counselors for the most part are liberal pinheads who can't manage their own lives or deal with their own problems. You need to be strong with your husband, because you are in the right here.