What's a"Normal" number of lovers to have in a lifetime?

Question

I think the answer should be the same for men and women.

Answer 1

Normal is actually split into three groups.

There are the Alphas. These men and women will sleep with hundreds or even thousands of partners during their lives. They are at the top of the "desirability" scale. For men this means they have money, or are dangerous (as in they actually enjoy injuring people). This will secure them fresh sexual partners well into their 60s.

Then there are your average sort of guys. They have a job, bring home a wage and so on. They will likely have less than 6 full time lovers during their lives. They live in something of a sexual desert. Getting a woman to sleep with them can actually become a full time job.

Lastly you have the "left out" group. These men are too shy, or unattractive, or have odd personal habits. Given that a women can easily entice a man several places above her social level, these men left at the bottom are left out. They NEVER secure a sexual partner or may have ONE in their entire lives. Often there is nothing acutally wrong with these men. However women feel that their multitude of choice makes these men less desirable.

Answer 2

I see you put that problematic word 'normal' in quotes.

What do you mean?

Are you talking about a numerical average like mean, where you add up all the numbers, and divide by how many people? Or median, where you split the population in half, and that's how many is "normal" -- or are you thinking each sex has a mode (more people had that many partners than any other number of partners).

At what place and time? I'd think people are having more lovers these days, what with birth control, loosening of attitudes toward sex, and later marriage.

By 'lovers' do you mean people one loves, or are you including casual sex?

Why should the answer be the same for men and women?

If more men want to have more sex, and fewer women do, what's it to you?

So, what is it that you're really asking, and why?

It's a lot easier to answer when we understand the question.

Answer 3

I think that depends on how old you are and the lengths of your relationships. I have a low number because I got married at 21. On the other hand, my best friend has a MUCH higher number than I do but she has been single for 9 years. I believe that the right number is whatever you feel okay with as long as you are safe while getting the notches on your bed post.

Answer 4

If your ina relationship - the best advice i can give is "DONT ASK - DONT TELL" This ruined me and my bf. I have had more than he and that was a problem.
most people i know are under 5. Then again i have had more than that. Sow hats normal morally or in real life? Or what we would ilke to hear.
I can honestly say if i could take mine all back i would for my current bf.
They werent worth it and a lot of guys just use girls and take advantage of them -

Answer 5

I dont think there is a "normal" number. Its up to the individual. I do agree that there shouldnt be a discrepancy between men and women, if that is what they want. It should be what the individual is comfortable with.

Answer 6

You know that's an interesting question. Only thing is what may be normal for you may not be normal to someone else. Personally, I would say morally... a good average would be 2-3. But that's just my personal opinion.

Answer 7

1 or 1,000 what's the difference? Keeping up with the Joneses, or keeping track of them is not the way to stay free from judgement of yourself. A normal number should be however many frogs it takes to get to the prince and DAMN, there are way many more frogs out there than we ever imagined!

Answer 8

As many as you can love as long as you're "Just Dating" and not in a relationship w/ someone else! Singles can have great fun as long as the person you are dealing with is on the same level as you. Remember you can lead a horse to water but that dont mean he/she cool wit it!

Answer 9

How about as many as it takes. As in 40 plus till you find the right one that takes you to the end. Makes you feel so special and you have what it takes as in the both of you climb walls when you are together.

Answer 10

ever how many you were able to convince you were "normal" enough to get a crack at their cra......ah jeez, this is one fantastically stupid question. Let's just say that if you have to ask, you wouldn't have ANY idea what to do with the answer, even if you managed to find the right one by backing through this hog maze with a flashlight in your butt.