I know it's the time of year. X-mas was the last bright memory for me...I'm trying to do x-mas stuff but keep bogging down with these memorys...what to do?
2006-12-21 09:14:25 · 11 answers · asked by MeaCulpa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(((hugs))) Enjoy the precious memories but don't dwell on the negative.
Read Dr. Phils article on "Healing A Broken Heart"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/18
Hope you have a very Merry Christmas :-)
2006-12-21 10:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she single yet ? Was what happen to cause the divorce so bad that it still can't be repaired ? Far as I know there is not much you can do. Send her a card. Offer to take her out for a nice Christmas dinner. AT dinner tell her how sorry you are for all that has happened, and that if there ever would be a chance to do it all over again, you would for sure re marry the most beautiful women you have ever loved in your life. Let her know how much you hurt inside, and that you would like a chance to take away any pain she may have too. Maybe she will let you start dating her, and proving how serious you really are at making it workout. I know the pain you feel. I to divorced and have had the same pain for 25 years. Now he is passed away and I wish I would have went back to. I never knew until it was to late that he actually felt the same way I did. Maybe she feels the same way you do. Don't just sit there and hurt, Get up and do something about it. If it don't work out for you then find someone who will fill that space in your heart and make a new life without looking back. I'm sure with a heart the size of yours you will find a wonderful women to share your life with. Good luck.
2006-12-21 09:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to begin new traditions, start new adventures. Maybe take a drive to see holiday lights or spend time giving to others. Nothing makes you feel better than giving of yourself. Go to a homeless shelter and volunteer. You cannot feel very sorry for yourself when you are faced with that kind of true hardship. Have faith that things will get better and you will find love. This loss has just sit you up to find the true love you deserve! Just keep the faith...and know that one day you will over this and in a much better place with the benefit of this experience to guide your next relationship. Good luck to you and have a Merry Christmas......
2006-12-21 09:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holidays are the worst, this gets people down all the time. you are not alone in this, make sure u get together with friends and do your best to meet as many new people as you can. Healing takes time. we have all been there, don't worry, it will get better for you.
Good Luck
2006-12-21 09:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sap stand up and be a man move on don,t get on here and think someone is going to feel sorry for you if you had not messed up you would still have her grow up
2006-12-21 10:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
did not your mom allow you to recognize to no longer have sex outside of marriage? Why is that? because sex is a BINDING act that motives 2 human beings to percentage an intimacy it extremely is to be held for MARRIAGE by myself! for this reason God tells us to no longer do FORNICATION! (sex outside the marriage mattress!) For at the same time as 2 human beings have sex, God sees it and instills them right into a lifestyles-lengthy bond of "one-flesh" (gen 2:24) In marriage, this can UNITE 2 human beings as no longer some thing can. that is in marriage the position sex shifts to develop right into a selfless act - one to the different. no longer so outside marriage. that is one hundred% selfishness! sex is merely some thing to do for one's personal excitement. God nevertheless binds both mutually......it is WHY you won't be able to in any respect ignore a previous lover! you won't be able to "flow on" because God received't enable you! you experience depressed, aggravating, can't sleep, can't devour (or devour too a lot!) and can't ever supply up wondering about this "lover". If this develop into in marriage, what a large element! you won't be able to offer up wondering about your "lover". in spite of the undeniable fact that, there develop into no marriage right here. merely raw sex. And this sex is gigantic sin. I allow you to recognize, you'll not in any respect ignore this guy. God received't enable you! perchance in 2 or 3 years you'll ignore rather. perchance in 30 or 40 you'll be able to enable more beneficial flow. in case you opt for to carry close the fact - flow to a nursing abode and characteristic a very sturdy communicate with the a number of 80 and ninety yo w grandmas. Ask them about their previous sex lifestyles and their previous "fans". they're going to be able to allow you to recognize each and everything that went on 70 years in the past! God will not in any respect enable that "one-flesh" issue flow. You needed it. you get carry of it!
2016-11-28 02:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by bornhoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to some Christmas parties for singles and find another lady. If you don't succeed. try, try again. And have fun.
2006-12-21 09:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the view on the avatar, why are you alone for Christmas? If she is still single and your still thinking about her perhaps you should call her up. God bless****
2006-12-21 09:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww I m sorry you are sad. But it will get better with time. If you are still on talking terms call her.
2006-12-21 09:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Orleanslady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do like I am...it wasn't good or you wouldn't be apart...so ...
I'll leave it at that..
.have a wonderful holiday..even if you are by yourself...
2006-12-21 09:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋