does a husband have a right to ask his wife "what time do you plan on being home"?

Question

if she is attending an office christmas party by herself?

Answer 1

Yes he does, but she also has the right to say " I don't know!" But it would be a good idea if he knew or someone else for her own safety.

Answer 2

Of course he has that right. He should know when to expect her home for many reasons. The first being for her own safety. What if something happens to her and he would not know because he would just think that she was still partying? A wife has an obligation to her husband just as he to her. If she feels she is going to stay later than anticipated then a phone call is easy to make. It is just about respect and being responsible.

Answer 3

Umm... YES- this is called common courtesy.

Even when I just had roomates, I would let them know if I would be in late or whatever. It doesn't mean the husband is a jealous ogre, and the wife should just ballpark a time for him.

I always let my husband know where I am and when I will be home- and I expect the same. That lets us know if we should have dinner for the other, or eat without them, or wait up, or just go to bed. Plus if they aren't there at the time they said, something might have happened.

EDITED TO ADD- I just read your other question, and OMG- YES, you are absolutely in the right on this one. You at home with 6 kids AND company she invited coming? Are you kidding me? Sounds like your wife needs a reality check- I think you should print these answers out and hand it to her.

Answer 4

I attend office parties each year by myself. I always tell my husband what time I will be home about. After all, I would want to know if the tables were turned.

Answer 5

I think as a married couple you should both know where each of you are and when to be expected home. And yes i think that it is fair for you to know about what time to expect her home.. The world is so dangerous now days that's it would be smart to know just for safety factors.. On the other hand why aren't you accompanying your wife to this party?

Answer 6

Yes, but not in a demading way---if she in turn ask why you are asking-tell her just in case she is about a hour or so late you can follow the route she has taken---you never know if someone is going to have some car trouble along the way--------------it does happen. Ask out of concern for her safety--not because you are the demanding/maybe controlling husband--or she may think you are.

Answer 7

Why would she go by herself? And yes, i think he has every right to ask. One, so he can begin to worry if your not home by the time you say. He can go see if your OK. 2- he's your husband, he at least deserves to know what time his wife is coming home regardless of the occasion!

Answer 8

Sure you do!

But the double-standard question of the day is you being asked by her, "Honey, what time will you be home after your office Christmas party?"

Get my drift??? lol

Best of luck!

Answer 9

It's common courtesy to let the person you live with know when you will be home.

You are her husband so she owes you more than the measure of common courtesy. she owes you the freedom and peace of mind that comes with knowing where she is, who she is with and when she will be home. Her safety and your peace of mind have nothing to do with a husband exerting any power or rights over his wife, it is just what I said, courtesy.

Answer 10

Most definitely. When political correctness dictates "no," then we're in trouble.

And I don't buy Lynda's "how you ask" theory, directly above. Lynda, just how weak to you prefer your man to be?

I could just as easily try to "keep the peace" and not say this, but because I'm not a "Lynda's type man," I'll say it. A man's duty is to protect a woman - that is his role as a husband.