My friend's youngest is about 1 1/2 and is always sick - that gross, snotty kind of sick. Plus he's had a cough for practically a year. She brought the cough up to the doctor and the doctor's thought was asthma and gave them albuterol to try.
Here's the thing though - I doubt it's asthma. Or not ONLY asthma. Her house is always a mess and her kids are just plain germy and gross. They cough & sneeze without covering their mouths, they walk around with snotty noses which if she does anything about them it's to whipe it on her sleeve or their own shirts (seriously). They never wash their hands - last time I was there they didn't even have soap in the bathroom, I had to go to the kitchen.
Her kids are always sick because they don't even do the simplest things to prevent spreading their germs back and forth!
Here's my question - how to I tell her that her house is a nasty, her kids are disgusting and pretty much the reason people around them get sick without hurting her feelings?
2006-12-21 09:08:53 · 5 answers · asked by Myelmo17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would report her. After I tell her that she needs to teach her kids to be more cleaner. Id tell her straight up. I would also tell her that your gonna report her if she dont do anything to teach her kids to be clean. Tell her "please understand that Im concerned about the kids' health!" If she gets mad at you and it tears your friendship up, then she really wasnt a "true friend". If someone was to tell me what you said up there.....I would be upset, but I would also be grateful that a friend cares enough to say something. good luck!
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2006-12-21 09:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tweetalette 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's the deal- if you are really a friend- bring over some soap & tissues for her with some cleaning supplies and help her get things cleaned up. She might be depressed or really overwhelmed. Just tell her that you want to help her out and you noticed she could use the help. If you have kids, have them help out too and have them teach the little ones the right thing to do.
2006-12-21 17:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Believe me, mothers like this do not care about their children. You could tell them about it until you are blue in the face, and they would pretend like they were concerned, but when it comes to taking action, they wont lift a finger to do a single thing. Be prepared to do whats best for the child, which means the end of your friendship. Call CPS.
2006-12-21 17:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Foxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to be able to tell her this without hurting her feelings. For her children's sake you should just lay it out for her. If she's not able to properly care for her children perhaps you need to get social services involved. If they threaten to take her kids away perhaps she'll straighten up.
2006-12-21 17:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by Melius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her tell HRS.
2006-12-21 17:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by sm4125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋