He's being moody, being aggressive and it's upsetting me. Earlier I took some wood from his 'den' (in my house) to burn on the open fire and he did this thing where he slaps the back of his right hand into the palm of the other whilst looking angry. I'm on dialysis and feeling pretty rough right now - I want to talk to him about it and finding it hard to think what to say. Help
2006-12-21 08:57:47 · 24 answers · asked by Nicola L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stregre19
I am the main breadwinner and the house owner so it's not a case of need - more like what I want.
2006-12-21 22:14:30 · update #1
You might be doing the right thing to go back with him - but you're certainly choosing the wrong time as you have these thoughts!
You should wait a little longer and see what happens to his behavior. You should always say to yourself: "If in doubt, do nowt!".
2006-12-21 09:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And he is moving back into the home because..............
Is it because of your medical situation? Is he the sole owner of the home and he moved out to clear his head or something? Why did he move out from the start? Trust when I say that you have only seen the tip of the inceberg. It will get worst especially if he's aggressive and moody. You are about to be a very unhappy woman. Can you afford to move out on your own? If so, use your resources to gain assistance for housing (dept. of social services etc.). No need to be unhappy in a marriage or household where this man has a possibility of becoming violent. Take care of yourself, mentally & physically. You do not need the extra stress and on dialysis.
2006-12-21 12:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of this bozo-you don't need him making your life a misery-you already have enough of that crap going on. You are seriously right to be having second thoughts here, not only is he moody and aggressive towards you, but is treating you childishly also i would suspect. You can do better, you know you can:-)Best of.....
2006-12-21 12:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't allow him to come back, he has major anger issues, in relationships each partner has a commitment to care about the other partner, where each partner is respected, and valued. just how much do u want to invest in this, as something is missing. the way he responds to things clearly shows he is angry, there seems to be major obstacles blocking what a good marriage is. he seems to be selfish and has no compassion for your illness. most husbands couldn't do enough for their sick spouse, but yours seems to resent your illness, in that case he will never be there to care for u, he will bail out.
2006-12-21 10:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sick the last thing you need right now is stress, leave him. Why would you want to be with a man who treats you that way especially when you are sick. Take care of yourself. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-21 10:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not completely on board with having him back in your life on a permanent basis, don't let him back in. You need to take care of yourself right now and shouldn't have to deal with his childish behavior. Look after yourself and do whatever you have to do to get better.
2006-12-21 09:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to "F" off when he is like that. Stick up for yourself, do you think he would put up with that from you if you were slappin' the back of your hand? Start playing his game.
2006-12-21 09:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by joyall57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you changed your mind, you're not letting him move back home. He can get mad all he wants and he just keeping his own hands and don't get any funny ideas about hitting you.
2006-12-21 09:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he move out in the first place? You should get rid of him and find someone more deserving
2006-12-21 09:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him he sounds like bad news. Put yourself first you are the only one who can do it....good luck
2006-12-21 09:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by Wim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋