lol okay this may seem like an idiotic question but i was actually having this conversation with another black girl at school...basically i dont dwell on this because obviously its pointless and i cannot change my race but it just slips out sometimes im like "well i just really dont like being black" the way media portays us, the fact that people assume im racist because im not attracted to black guys , and i just dont think black people in general are attractive. i cant help that - like i think most black people i know are ugly or just not that atrtactive....everyone else around me seems to disagree which just leads me to thinki have issues (whatever) on the flip side - all of this has also made me an opinionated person who knows that race does not define personality and culture and i do like hearing others opinions about my choices and perception on race and life but at the same time im me and wont change for any1..haha i am done now
2006-12-21 08:38:52 · 22 answers · asked by Gone, Gone, Gone. 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
lmao at the ppl that think i am not a black high school student..once again an example of the narrow mindedness when it comes to what black people "should" think. if you honestly need proof that im a black highschool student ( which is kind of rediculous) click on my name (the_pot_and_the_kettle_08) and read my little profile ..THERE IS A LINK TO MY MYSPACE PAGE) jeez ppl give me a break!
2006-12-21 09:34:32 · update #1
OH AND ANOTHER THING....SINCE WHEN DID NOT LIKING MY RACIAL EXTERIOR DETERMINE THAT I HATE ME?! my race does not at all define MY PERSONALITY AND WHO I AM. i love me. i do not love the way i, and most black ppl, look. this is just another example of what i was talking about..all of a sudden "race = who you are as a person. expand your mind plz.
2006-12-21 09:38:05 · update #2
my picture...see how ugly i am (due to my blackness maybe? ) haha
http://myspace.com/ashleyiscoocoo4coacoapufs
2006-12-21 10:37:37 · update #3
You really do hate yourself don't you. You are presenting yourself as white on your Yahoo Answers avatar when you are quite evidently black from you MYSpace page....
This alongside all of your other rhetoric is suggestive of the fact that you may need psychological help.. and I'm not even being rude...
P.S Yo also said in one of your other questions that you are mostly black [meaning you are not full Black] but you look it to me.. so stop trying to elevate yourself above other Black people who I consider to be more sincere than yourself!!
2006-12-26 08:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by triptipper 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I read your question/essay 2x just to make sure I didn't miss anything. What is your point? Do you want all of America to go to your MySpace page and say "Damn, right, that broad is one black ugly----!" That way you can justify your self hatred? Well, I said it. You're ugly. But it's not your physical appearance that is ugly. It is your attitude towards yourself and other black people. Why do you think being black is unattractive? Is it the physical features? The skin tone? There has got to be a reason. Do you live or go to school in an area where there isn't a big minority population? I'm sure if I lived in an area where most of the folks were something other than black, I might be more inclined to think that I was unattractive in some sort of way. But I'm lucky to live and work in a racially diverse city. Do you find your parent's unattractive? Why insult them? I looked at your MySpace page and looked at the pictures. You have a nice looking father and you are not a physically unattractive girl. But like I said, your self-hatred makes you very ugly. There's going to always be something about yourself you're not going to like. Some things you can change, others you can't. If you hate being black, wait until you go away to school. There will be some jerks who will not hesitate to remind you that you are black. If you hate the way the media portrays us, yes us, because we are both black, you aren't helping matters none. You are feeding into that hate, you are feeding into the self loathing stereotype. There are legitimately ugly folks out there, black, white, asian, whatever. But to say that you think that all (or most) black people are ugly, and then not even being able to back up your statement with concrete answers is an insult to all black people. Like it or not, you are one of us, so even if you decide one day go the Michael Jackson route and bleach your skin and carve up your face, it won't deny the fact that you are black. Good luck, because you are going to need it.
2006-12-22 15:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by nycgrrl4eva 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is actually pretty sad. There is nothing good about self hatred. You can't even love the skin you're in. That has got to suck. What does the way the media portray black people have to do with how you feel about yourself? Do you not have any positive black people in your life who are the opposite of what the media portrays? You're right, there isn't anything you can do to change your race, but you could try to educate yourself a little better. Maybe when you see all that blacks have endured throughout history, and still continue to endure, it may give you more of a sense of pride.
Worrying about whether or not people believe you are in high school really has nothing to do with the question that you posted. Since you are in high school, let me explain, I graduated from high school almost 10 years ago. Been there, done that. So, maybe since you're taking the time to post this question, you should try listening to some of the advice given. You are basically a little girl, and you still have A LOT to learn.
And, the fact that you have all these "haha's" and "lol's" implying that this sh*t is funny is even more sad. There is nothing cute or funny about self hatred. There is nothing cute about the racism that you have against yourself and the whole black race. Since black people are so ugly, what do you think about yourself when you look in the mirror?
So, since you stated that everyone else around you seems to disagree with you and it makes you think you have issues... let me tell you... YOU REALLY DO.
2006-12-21 17:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by *karasi* 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Hi,my boyfriend is black and I love him to pieces and also love the way he looks.I honestly dont think ur very happy with urself.Because as much as people say they do not notice race,when you walk into a room, first thing I would see is a black man walking into a room whether or not that is what u want to be seen as.And to be honest, I would have more respect for you if you were happy and proud of who u are.People look outside in,not inside out.
My Nan thinks white people are more superior than black people and guess what?So do you....people like you make people like that feel their right while so many black people would kill themselves to change it.I think you should learn to love and appreciate urself.
2006-12-21 17:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffy 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, well this is the way I see it ... WARNING: I'm not a very PC person :D
You seemed sort of pretentious to me, sorry but thats just the way you come off. No, I don't believe that your race indentifies who you are. But if someone were to ask, what you are ... how would you describle yourself? LOL!!! I really curious :D
I relate to people who are down-to-earth -- regradless of there complexions. SORRY but I'm not really into all the racial stuff -- its all stupid propaganda if you ask me.
Hahaha, you probably act like that girl from Laguna Beach (Cami)-- for heavens sake she is sooooooooooooooooo annoying. She annoys so many people -- latin, white, black or whomever.
I'm not a fan of the show but goodness, she and the other cast members are just plain nuts!!! If you act anything like Cami ... I'll save my comment ;)
Toodles ~
2006-12-24 16:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ashley,
I am black. At first when i read your question i was offended. BUT then i realized that you are entitled to your opinion about your on appearance and about our culture.
I am happy with my race. i love looking at this beautiful brown color. It's not my job to judge you so i won't BUT i must say, I think you need to look at our history. Look at all the things that we as a race have overcome. Maybe then you love being Black. Brown skin represents more that what is depicted on television. It represents strength and determination.
2006-12-28 13:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your black your black. Your going to have to find happiness in the way God made you or you are going to waste alot of good time worrying about something so silly. I think you need to do some serious soul searching because it seems you hate yourself, you don't even like your own race's looks! I worry about what you think of your own looks. You can be however you want to be, the media does not define a black person, or any person. But you are going to have to love the skin your in. Find things you love about black people. Visit an African art exhibit. The art is beautiful and so full of color and life. Read books by black authors. Notice the beautiful things about black people. I think black women are so pretty, and a large part is because they carry themselves so well. I have yet to see a black woman with her head low, walking like she's not comfortable with herself.
I really hope you find peace and love for yourself and your own special beauty.
2006-12-21 18:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I must say that yeah u do sound like a white person posing to be black.I think u have very low self esteem....thrz nothing wierd about it, i just think if u want to moe foward in life, u shld learn to love urself...Im black and proud and beautiful.I do not think black people are ugly...what is ur definition of beautiful?Whos eyes are u looking at beautiful from?I found black boyz very attractive and fulfilling,i so not feel satisfied and fulfilled with a white guy...who u date is preferrenctial.I think u should speak to ur mum or a counsellor....ull find answers there,not on here with racist white people waiting to pounce at every opportunity.Hope u learn to love urself and find peace in ur skin.Good luck
2006-12-21 17:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Topsyturvy 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Honey you are stuck so, accept your blackness (it's beautiful), get over the self hate and get educated. Once you educate yourself you will be free of the self hatred that you will ultimately develop if not dealt with. Date who you wanna date but, you need to deal with the negative way you see yourself as a black young woman..
Good luck sweetheart
2006-12-21 20:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Shikibeeks 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That question in no "lol"...nothing funny about it. I think you are a damaged individual with serious "self-hatred". If you are not what is portrayed in the media, why should that cause you to question or loathe being black?? I think you are a pathetic, sad, miserable person who needs to seek help. You ARE too influenced by the daily influx of negative images of blacks, and a "victim" of white media and what it dictates as acceptable, beautiful, or good. Get help...seriously, you need counseling/therapy with a black therapist, naturally.
2006-12-21 16:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋