I have never done anything like this before.
2006-12-21 08:33:17 · 25 answers · asked by Shanti H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Since you're pondering the question you must have some interest. Now, does he expect you to have sex with the other girl? Do you consider yourself bi? Is the other girl wanting or willing too? Or is your boyfriend just wanting it all for him? If that is the case dump the boy.... if you're interested in 3-some that involves being with her and you're interested in that - go for it.....
If you're totally against having sex with another women I would take the advice offered by those who said dump him...
2006-12-21 08:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by D. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost... do you want to do it? If the answer is "no" than don't. If it is "I'm not sure" than you and your boyfriend need to talk about this some more. If it is "hell ya!" than go for it.
When entering into something like this though both of you have to be on the same page about it. You both have to have the same fantasy? Are you into or comfortable with this other woman? Have you both have discussed it in length and have set down ground rules and boundries?
Also, swinging (and yes, a threesome is technically swinging) is the great equalizer in a relationship. If you are willing to give him his fantasy of a FMF, than he better be open to the idea of you having a MFM if you should want it.
Most guys think a FMF would be awesome, but recoil like they've been bit by a snake when it comes to the suggestion of a MFM. They seem to think it's okay for you to watch him banging away at some other girl, but they idea of you getting it from some other guy is not. That you shouldn't care, but he does if someone else is "eating off his plate".
If he isn't okay with a MFM (even if you never did it), than he should be completely respectful of you not being okay with a FMF.
Remember, everything you do as a couple should be for the couple. If something doesn't work for one of you, than it doesn't work for both of you. That's just the way being a couple is.
Oh, and another thing. Don't crap where you eat. Involving coworkers is not the best idea in the world. If stuff goes wrong between you (meaning you and your b-friend) and her your boyfriend could lose his job. Better to keep the private and public lives seperated.
2006-12-21 16:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything if your not comfortable and don't want to.
Please DON'T fall for the lame "but don't you love me??" line some guys tend to use. If you don't want to, then you don't.
and 5 months is way to soon if you ask me! Clearly he seems interested in this girl at work. Are you ok with that?? If not, dump him. If your into it and are curious, theres nothing wrong with trying but threesomes is really meant if you know both people well and trust them. If you don't, you're just gonna get miserable and regret it.
5 months is not well enough and you don't even know this girl. Don't do something you'll regret. Find a better guy. :-)
And since you never done a threesome before... then I strongly aruge you NOT to do it.... a first time should only be done if you know and trust the people well.... not someone you known for a few months and someone you don't even know.
2006-12-21 09:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by tashasw79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok personally i think it is abad i dea. But i quess you could surprise him and make it a foursome and invite aguy. Dont fall for crap he gives you.
Personally i would not do it since you are still onl been five months with him. You can if you are fine with saring your bf fpor about 4 hours. So up to you. Dont feel preasured by him. This will only cause more mussleadings. Follow your heart
2006-12-21 12:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Screen Name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? You would be surprised to see the number and types of people who do this. If it intrigues you do it. If however you are not comfortable with it, don't.
Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. If you do it make sure the two of you discuss, before and after. Good luck.
2006-12-21 10:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cannuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is usually a bad idea to do in a committed relationship. There could be jealousy issues and either him or you could develop feelings for this other person. Proceed at your own risk.
2006-12-21 09:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He just wants another piece besides yours. Without resorting to cheating. Tell him you might wind up liking sex with a woman more than a man and then he'll be history.
2006-12-21 09:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Obviously he is looking and flirting with this girl. Let him just have her and move on to a better guy that is more worthy of you.
2006-12-21 08:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well.... if hes ur boyfriend and it involves a girl that would be cheating but if ur not ok with it and he keeps asking u to be involved repeatedly tell him no and go get the girl he wants to have sex with. you dont have to do anything you dont want to do.
2006-12-21 08:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not up to that kind of thing you might want to dump the loser before he cheats on you. He may just do it without you or your permission.
2006-12-21 08:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by tarynlavender 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋