I have some serious issues with the prospect of the future . I feel like sometime I am the only one with this issue of marriage ,babies motherhood etc... Help I need to feel like I am somewhat normal.
2006-12-21 08:15:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you find the right person to marry, all these issues go away.
2006-12-21 08:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by righteousrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of marriage is normal sometimes because you are going to enbarck on a life long journey with someone else and you are thinking whether or not things will work out for you. Some people fear that they will not make it as a married couple because of career choices, financial matters, etc. I guess this is a reason why there are more singles now than before.
Marriage is a big step in a person's life. If you are afraid, talk to your loved one and let him know. It may be that you may need more time to think whether or not marriage is for you, maybe he feels the same way.
2006-12-21 08:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I'm right there with ya. I thoroughly enjoy my freedom. It nice to just decide to go away for the weekend. I pack my stuff, me and the dog jump inthe car and roll out, with a quick call to mom out of courtesy so she doesn't worry. All that I know for certain is that I have this life to live and I don't know that mine is best spent being half of a whole, i want to be whole on my own. I guess if the right time comes along, all that will melt away and my priorities will shift. I take marriage and parenthood very seriously and would not enter into it half-heartedly. I'm not ready to make anyone else the center of my life and that's what you have to do when you become a parent. I do have 2 friends that feel that way too but all the rest of my friends are married and new moms. I do not envy them. Maybe one day I'll understand why they wanted all that domestic life but right now I'm not seeing it. I hope that one day I'm financially secure enough to adopt on my own but it may never be in the cards......
2006-12-21 09:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no law that says you have to get married or have babies. There's nothing wrong with being worried about those things, because they are huge, life-altering commitments. It's the people who leap into marriage & parenthood without a worry in the world who are making the mistake.
2006-12-21 08:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to know what my grandmother says, she always tells me think about it for just one moment, should you go with your instincts on how you feel about the situation or just go with what you feel like you should go on? i think you should think about your future twice or more. think about the good things that could happen. dont worry i think your future will turn good. the marriage, youll find the guy of your dreams itll come in time, motherhood, think on how happy you'll be when you see your kids with you, (i know the taking care part of the babies may be a pain, but you'll see later on they will be kids and eventually youll see what im saying) if im wrong about your future then ok kill me.
2006-12-21 08:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by bloomonkey93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's normal? What society states? I'm not sure it matters anymore.
You are not the only person, and these feelings might go away, and then again they might not. They are normal to YOU and that's all that matters.
I saw my father get married 5 times!!! So naturally marriage scares the hell out of me, and I think I'm normal.
2006-12-21 08:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get married!! You don't have to be someone's wife or mother!! It's okay to be an independant woman this day in age. And if you'd rather do this than be a wife/mother, then by all means. You especially don't want to be one of those women who don't want kids then end up pregnant. Those children are the ones who pay for it, not the mother!! So don't do it if you don't want to!!
2006-12-21 08:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine Swirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I am 40 and still worry about what the next 10 years will bring me. Will my kids turn to drugs instead of our loving family. Will my wife or I get cancer and die? Will my parents be dead next year? Will my job disappear and I loose my house? You think you got problems, try being an adult for awhile.
2006-12-21 08:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid of getting married, then you shouldn't do so! Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and you just aren't ready. There is nothing wrong with that!
2006-12-21 08:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. It is a waste of time and money. You will probably just get divorced and have to start all over again. So who cares if you are normal.
2006-12-21 08:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Jimfix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋