ive been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now, and i want to ask him to marry me on new years eve, but im worried he might think its too soon, even though he has told me that he is madly in love with me. what should i do?
2006-12-21 08:11:55 · 17 answers · asked by kute_regina_gal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go with your heart and gut feelings and jut ask him..All he can say is yes or he's not ready for that step and you just have to accept it...
I was engaged in 3 months and we've been together so far for 5 years.....
Good Luck...
2006-12-21 09:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 4 months is to soon. I would suggest that if you are still together 1 1/2 to 2 years from now,then maybe it would be a possibility. Don't rush into anything that deep yet. You just might scare him away. Develop a meaningful friendship/relationship first. Then if you both are feeling the same thing at the same time... Then talk about the Possibilty of making the relationship more. See where that takes your relationship.
Good Luck!
2006-12-21 08:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months is a pretty short amount of time to decide if this is your life's partner.
Have the two of you talked about future plans? Are you both finished w/ your education? Have you discussed your career goals? Have you talked about your religious values? Monetary aspirations? Is he a spender and you a saver? Does he want kids? Do you? Do you like his parents and siblings? Does he like yours?
Marriage is an adult relationship and a lifelong commitment. It is not a contract to enter into simply on the basis of romantic attachment. Which, at four months, is probably all you have had time for.
2006-12-21 08:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt you could be madly in love with each other, but why are you in such a rush? Believe me it takes more than 4 months to know a person and how they will handle the adult life of paying bills, taking care of responsibility and even what do you know about how he handles children or does he go to church. What do you really know about each other? Be smart and give yourself more time.. who knows he may ask you.
2006-12-21 08:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months and you are asking him. I say no way. Date for at least a year, get engaged and then live together for at least a year. If you survive that get married. What's the rush, you'll only get the divorce over sooner.
2006-12-21 08:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not enough information
4 months isn't long enough to know he is the one for the rest of your life
you sound young
you can still ask him I guess
there's nothing as wonderful as love
you can always get him an inexpensive ring and ask to be "pre-engaged" and try being faithful and monogomous for 1 year
then if things go well, get engaged for real
if you are young and in love you don't have to get married to be happy (right now)
there are other gestures of love
2006-12-21 08:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by sparetom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon, wait another year at least and let him ask you when he feels he's ready to support a wife and future children
2006-12-21 08:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rush....just wait! 4 months is not long enough....you are still in the honeymoon stage. Wait a couple years.
2006-12-21 08:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you wait and see if he asks you. I may be old fashioned, but I think it is the guy who should ask. My husband asked me after 6 weeks of dating.
2006-12-21 08:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that it's too soon, then wait a little while until you know the time is right.
2006-12-21 08:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Speed, I Am Speed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋