Do you think it's okay to cheat on your husband if you found out that he cheated on you ? My husband's best friend wants to sleep with me would it be right if I slept with him as revenge or with someone my husband didn't know or should I pack up my sh**t and go? I Love Him soo much and I'm hurt please help!!!?
2006-12-21 08:11:23 · 39 answers · asked by madadanabitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating on someone to get back at their cheating will never make things better. If you truly love your husband as you say then you must focus on your relationship. If your husband is unwilling to focus on your relationship then you must focus on you. Don't create a situation where you have to lie.
I'm really sorry you are hurting right now. I've been there. God Bless.
2006-12-21 08:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Brent S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of f I have to start by saying I'm so sorry your going through this I've been married for 4 and a half years and marriage is tough. But before you make any rash decisions you need to really think about what would gain by doing the same thing it could do more harm than good. Now girl trust is a bust if you feel he cannot be trusted ever again do what you gotta do. But on the ,other hand no one is perfect once mistake 2, 3, a habit. If you feel you need to seperate from him just to get your emotions together U should.
2006-12-21 08:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ebony 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely NOT! Thats childish and definatly will not fix a thing. First of all, it won't make you feel good about yourself and turns the marriage into a competition of who can be the last to cheat. If this is his first time and he's willing to work on the marriage then stay and get couseling. If you "get revenge" you might as well just pack your sh** and go. Doesn't sound like "best friend" to me. You'd be NO BETTER than him unless thats what you want.
Also, I hear ya javelin. Right ON!
2006-12-21 08:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm right here with you my husband was and is still cheating on me but I have to do what is right for me and I didn't want to be like him even though I felt like I needed to do something to get back at him. It's a very hard thing because everyone is different and needs to do what is best for them. I know you are hurting, so am I but the real question is will sleeping with his best friend make what he did to you hurt any less?
2006-12-21 08:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by frsttmshy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, its not ok to cheat on your husband just because you found out he cheated on you. you seriously wont get nothing out of it trust me and please dont you sleep with his best friend.....if you are thinking about sleeping with some one else then its BEST to pack up your sh*t and go cause it wont ever be the same. If you really LOVE him give him a other chance but if he fuc*s up again then its not worth it. one thing i do tell you though you will forgive him but never forget what he did. Dont put your self so low the way he did by cheating on you your better than that.....
2006-12-21 08:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by precious_vanessa_04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not. Two wrongs never make a right! All that will do push the already hostile environment over the top. If you truly love your hubby so much. Then my suggestion is to seek counseling and move on with your lives. Divorce is easy! Marriage takes commitment, forgiveness, love, kindness, and work. However you have not said if this is the first time or one of many times he has done this. If he has a habit of doing this then you should consider leaving, due to the fact he does not love you then. However if he loves you he will go to counseling and work with you on putting your marriage back together and moving forward in life.
Just remember nothing in life comes free. Even marriage takes work and commitment.
And you never fight fire with gasoline. Always water!
2006-12-21 08:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by liles21090 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me guess the best friend told you your man cheated on you, then now wants to sleep with you?
Tell your husband, don't cheat back. Confirm it with him, tell him you've heard the rumor and now you want the truth. See what happens, don't mess up your marriage on a lie or possible deceipt.
Also tell your husband about the person posing as his friend, it sucks to have people like that in your world, what if he's lying??
Good luck, be a good human!!
2006-12-21 08:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Why would you allow your precious body to be used for something as stupid as revenge that will only make you feel worse? Make your husband tell you why he cheated. Tell him that you want to work things out even if it means getting your feelings hurt by the truth. Whether it's because of you that he cheated or some insecurity he holds within himself you guys need to work through it or he's going ruin your mental and spiritual self not to mention give you some sort of disease.
2006-12-21 08:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by crystalonyx3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be the better person, even though it's hard in this situation. Don't sleep with anyone and Definitely don't sleep with his best friend. Two reasons: 1) he may not be a good friend for anyone if he wants to sleep with his friend's wife and 2) how do you know it's not a setup to hurt you more?
Steer clear of provocation and if you want out get a divorce before starting any relationships, however superficial they may be,
2006-12-21 08:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by OlgaBJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No cheating is never right. Two wrongs do NOT make things right.
Pack you things, and leave if you have your mind set on leaving. It is healthier. Then after some time has passed if you think you can and want to patch things up with your Husband....do so. But not without therapy.
2006-12-21 08:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋