can you forgive and forget ?do you believe in that phrase?

Question

plus do you think that a person who apologiz has no charactar or he /she has a weak personality becuase i have this friend who beleive in that ..i need honest opinion please .do you think is right or wrong to forgive&forget

Answer 1

Guess it depends on what you are trying to forgive and forget, alot of things can be forgiven and forgotten, but not everything.

Answer 2

I definitely think that as a human being, you do not only have the capacity to forgive and forget, but it is also the right thing to do in about 95% of the times in which you have an opportunity to do so. Not only is your relationship with the person who hurt you in some way usually more important than that- you wouldn't be hurt as much if the person didn't mean that much to you in the first place- but it is a waste of time and energy to go on having bad feelings toward someone- why add more negative thoughts and feelings to your life. So, to put it in straight english, yes- you should almost always forgive and forget.

Answer 3

I believe the better person forgives. A stronger person apologises. It is always hard to admit we are in the wrong. Forgiving and forgetting is not a case of being right or wrong. It is about how you feel as a person. Although it is hard to forgive someone if they do something wrong against you, it is much harder to forget it. If you ever do forget it. Your friend thinks it is weak to say sorry?? She will lose alot of friends with that sort of attitude.

Answer 4

I think you can forgive, plus it is the right thing to do after of certain amount of time, but forgetting is another thing. I can never forget things.... and sometimes it makes me really mad because I think: if I can forgive, why can't I forget, I don't want to keep remembering this and it makes me wonder how I could of forgiven the person in the first place. You may seriously believe you have forgotten, but one little tiny thing can make you remember again and it drives me up the wall.

Sorry if this is confusing....

Answer 5

I live my life by forgiving and forgetting. All of us have unpleasant encounters in our lives. The closer the relationship, the deeper the hurt and the more difficult it becomes to move on. The alternative of a long term grudge or the hope of a potential retaliation will be much more damaging to your life. Life is truly too short to dwell on yesterdays trespasses. Forgiving and forgetting lets one move on to the next great adventure. But there is an important caveat. Forgive and forget the trespasser, but never forget the experience. The remembrance of the experience will guide you safely through similar encounters in the future. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

As a very wise friend once told me- "I can forget and I can forgive- but I'll be damned if I will forget what I forgave". That means that it's unlikely that she will excuse the same abuse twice.

A person who apologizes when it's appropriate is an honorable person, and probably stronger than most. One who apologizes when it's not or to gain favor is cowardly- and weak.

Regardless of what you say, what you do is who you are. You can identify who people are if you quit listening to their words- and look at their actions.

Answer 7

I believe that it is right to forgive and forget, but only a few times. For example, if someone keeps doing or saying hurtful things to you and they keep saying that they say tha they won't do it again, you can "forgive and forget" once. But if they keep doing it, and ask you to forgive them again, then you can't, because you won't believe that they won't do it again.

I think it is right to forgive someone once, twice or even three times, but if they keep doing something bad, then you should stop forgiving and forgetting. But of course it depends on how serious a situation is and how badly someone has treated you. If they have only done a very small thing that can be forgiven easily, then it is forgivable many times. But if it is something more serious, it can only be forgivable once.

Answer 8

I believe in forgiving a person for perceived transgressions but I usually will never forget what they did.

All of us have long memories when it comes to perceived slights and/or overly aggressive behavior in response to life's situations.

We shouldn't forget those encounters. However, we can always find a way to forgive the transgressor and get on with life.

We do need to directly and firmly inform the transgressor that his actions were inappropriate.

Then, we should "let it be."

As for an apology, I personally welcome it if I think that it is appropriate and heart felt.

Apologies do not signify weakness, they signify strength of character.

Answer 9

I think it all depends on the gravity of the situation. How bad the problem was? Most of us can't forgive easily and therefore cannot forget!! sometimes you'll have to forgive because the pain, mistrust, anger, and hatred u are feeling won't let u live in peace with urself, so u force urself to forgive and try to erase it from ur mind just to be okay mentally!

People who apologize and admit their mistakes are the strongest!! I do admire and respect those kind of people because sometimes u have to step on ur ego/ honor/dignity/self esteem just to say "I'm sorry" !

Answer 10

I believe you can forgive, but it depends on the person whether or not they want to forget. My husband cheated on me our first year of marriage. It wasn't known to me until our sixth year of marriage. I was extremely hurt and upset. I told him I could forgive him, but I would probably not forget. I did tell him if he could accept that, then we can try to work things out. Every now and then during an argument I'll bring up the affair. Is that healthy in a relationship...of course not, but it is my way of coping. Afterall I have to put up with knowing that another woman had him. He can put up with me reminding him of it. If our marriage ends in divorce, then he should've never let the affair happen.

Answer 11

I think that people who are humble enough to SINCERELY apologize are stronger in character than most. It is very difficult to admit your fallacies, and although you may never forget, surely, you can forgive. By not forgiving someone, you develop a sense of mistrust and anger towards that person, and I refuse to let anyone have that much control over me. Let it go.