A girlfriend of mine I work with was easedropping on our boss w/ an applicant when he said some really sexist, mean and hurtful things about her. Now she is really hurt, mad and upset. She know she shouldn't have been easedropping, and stated that's what she gets, but she's still really upset. Any advice on how to get through this? Things were said like "I could never bring her in front of people" She doesn't have what it takes, "All she wants to do is get married and have kids", SHe's good, but you could come in here and do a bang up job.
Honestly this girl I work with is terriffic at her job, and everybody here recognizes it, Just because she is engaged, she is not even getting married untill 2008, and does not want to "Have a bunch of kids", he doesn't even know her on a personel level. Why would he say these things to this applicant...
2006-12-21 07:45:02 · 5 answers · asked by J K 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Let her know a few simple facts. Most men are pigs when it comes to show off time or acting out in front of others especially in the work place.
Your boss is probably mentally restricted in his personal life and has to say things that he thinks make him look intelligent or at the very least, not dumb.
Most of us think there is a chance but everyone has a choice! Remember: You can't drown in a puddle if you just stand up!
Let your girl friend read this.... She's the bomb and deserves a better employer!
By the way, don't think your boss just talks about her... She just happened to hear one of his conversations.
2006-12-21 08:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by ggraves1724 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise your girlfriend to be very polite and never bring this up to her boss. Be nothing but professional. Do the same diligent job she has always done. BUT -- BIG BUT -- she needs to start looking for another job. Her boss is a classless jerk. Period. She won't get a fair shake from this jerk. So move on. Stay civil and polite and never, never bring this up to him, EVER. Keep in mind that you will need his recommendation on the new job. Be sweet but real. Play him. Get that shining recommendation from him, subtly. By the way the term is eaves-dropping. One who stands under the drip from the eaves in order to listen secretly to what is said in private.
2006-12-21 16:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, is it possible to transfer to a different part of the company and work under someone different? Or she can confront him and let him know that she had heard a rumor about her work ethics and they need to discuss ways of getting past this. If she has been with the company for a while maybe it is time for a change, her boss sounds like a real ****hole.
2006-12-21 15:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My recommendation is for her to be very up-front and direct with her boss about this.
She should say something like, "Boss, I didn't mean to eavesdrop, but I overheard you saying some things about me that make me unhappy. It seems you have an impression of me that is not accurate, which I'd like to correct, and I'd like to get your input as to how I can change some of the behavior that you're concerned about".
Hopefully, her boss is mature enough, that he can move past the eavesdropping "indiscretion", and be proactive in helping her with the right career choices.
2006-12-21 16:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats not sexists - it was a personal phone call that she was not meant to hear, she should tell him what she overheard and explain to him why she feels he is wrong about her - she should write a letter to him if she does not want to tt him. She needs to get it out if she is going to move on.
2006-12-21 15:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋