The olive branch has been over extended and no matter what I do she is bitter. The children have alot of fun when they are with us, but she refuses to meet me and will not sit down with me to talk.
2006-12-21 07:27:42 · 15 answers · asked by kitzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its very unfortunate when a divorce goes bad and there is bitterness and regret on one side (or both). This is particularly true when there are children involved.
I suspect that she is angry over many things, including her disregard for her sexual preference in marrying a man, etc...
I don't know what or how the divorce occurred. But the roots of her bitterness may lie in how the divorce was instigated, or how the divorce went.
For you, there is little you can do to 'fix' the situation. I would talk with your husband about it... and if he is still communicating with his ex-wife, he may be able to mitigate or eliminate some of the bitterness.
On your side, there is really nothing you can do if she refuses to meet with you or talk with you.
I wish you the best.
-dh
2006-12-21 07:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to sit down with this woman? If your husband loves you and the kids have fun when they're with you guys, let that be it. If the ex-wife is bitter it's probably because you are brewing up trouble. Let your husband handle his ex-wife. You mind your own business and leave her alone.
2006-12-21 15:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you think the people here can offer help in dealing with a bitter lesbian?
Some problems are far to big for even a trained therapist.
This is one.
Good Luck.
2006-12-21 15:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most Ex's don't care to meet the new wife. Don't worry about it, if she is that bitter a meeting between you would probably end in jail time anyway.
2006-12-21 15:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by PDH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is afraid of you, You hold all the cards in her deck, you are straight, and married. she is afraid of the kids separating from her, and afraid of giving you any ammunition to down grade her in front of children. She already feels bad enough about her sexuality, and is afraid of the stigma of the situation for her children. For the olive branch to be accepted, one must know that there isn't any poison ivy in the leaves.
2006-12-21 15:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could give you the magic answer. Unfortunately this isn't your issue. The olive branch as you put it was extended and that's that. When she's ready to get over herself, she can come to you. I would be civil with her and if it doesn't kill you to be friendly, then do so. When she's ready to thaw, she will.
2006-12-21 15:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go treat her kids good because you want to and let her go. There really is no reason for you to deal with her it is her ex's job to do that.
2006-12-21 16:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your husbands problem. I wouldn't be overly concerned with how she feels about you. In fact, I wouldn't be concerned at all. Why are you giving it so much energy. sniff sniff I smell a drama queen.
2006-12-21 15:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is not as lesbian as she thought she was, maybe is bitter because she lost a good thing.
2006-12-21 15:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by thevillageidiotxxxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about it. Just visit with the children.
2006-12-21 15:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋