Is this considered emotional abuse?

Question

The guy would always make rude remarks but say immediately that he's just joking, abusive remarks and say he's just joking?

Answer 1

Sounds like a combination of both mental and emotional abuse. I guess you could call them one and the same.
What I would do I were you is get rid of him as fast as you can, things will not get better, once they start they never stop. Take care of you.
He has a problem and you do not need to take his problem on to yourself, let him have it.

Answer 2

A lot of these people's opinions seem to be bias toward some personal situation. People can have a ruff sense of humor for many reasons than just self esteem issues. It really depends on the context of this person is really saying.

If someone has to always state their intent after their action it obviously wasn't clear enough to begin with. People interpret humor differently. I have a rather extreme and out there sense of humor but, when I'm using it people often know because of the context and way I voice it.

Sometimes people use humor to hide or avoid what they really feel. To give things less meaning. They may do it to distance themselves from people and avoid emotions. You have to explain to the person how their words really effect you on a serious level. They may not even believe you or, just not care or really get the full impact.

Sometimes it's part of peoples personalities to be highly critical of what's around them. And even desensitize things. When people consider something that offends another as a joke they usually intend it to be. But, they often do not think about how it will effect someone else or understand fully how it effects other people. It is hard for some to take into consideration how other people think and interpret things differently. I see religious signs in windows of general stores that offends me. Perhaps the store owners do not care that there is more than one religion or no one has said anything the right way.

Tell the person flat out to respect you and they may. You need to put this person in their place but, do it respectively and consider they probably have a high ego to be so critical to make jokes so often. They may have low self esteem and mask it with humor.

If this person says things repetitively that they know bothers you or in the same area either they don't care about your feelings. Or they have a problem expressing their thoughts and feelings in a positive way. Perhaps their is a conflict they do not know how to resolve other than making you see the humor in it. But, by the way you say "rude remarks" I dought it is that constructive.

Answer 3

If he does it very often and if it offensive to you then it may be abuse. If you have asked him to stop and he continues to so so, the it is abuse. Does he do it to get a laugh out of other around you? If so, then it is abuse but he doesn't see it that way. No matter what the circumstances are, it needs to stop. If he won't stop, then cut off contact with him. There are too many good people in the world to spend you time with people who only want to bring you down. Don't snip back at him though because then you will be on his level. The only reason people tease others spitefully is because they feel intimidated by the object of his/her teasing. They want to bring the person down, to raise themselves up.

Answer 4

He is NOT joking at all. That guy who always make rude remarks are really made rude remarks indeed. He did it purposefully, not for joking or humor at all.
He really makes rude remarks because something inside him triggers him to say and make rude remarks.
He cannot control something inside him that make him makes rude remarks. He even doesn't know why he made rude remarks....
Because he doesn't know why he made such a rude remark, ALL he can do is just say he was kidding. Because when people ask him why he made rude remarks... even he, himself, cannot find the answer to himself why he did that.

Those who have something hideous inside themselves brought from the past, are those who tend to make or say rude remarks unconsciously. Really.... they even really don't know WHY they make rude remarks. Instead of apologizing, also triggered with self-prided and self-righteousness, they say it's only joking. While in reality is NOT joking at all. They simply don't know why they made rude remarks. But psychologically, brought to them from the their unhappy and dark past. Something unsolved and unanswered from their past haunt them -unconsciously- until triggers them to make such rude remarks towards other.
Rude remarks could be considered as emotional abuse if pointed and aimed continually to the defenseless ones (including children).
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Answer 5

It is emotional abuse. If his intent was to be funny, then he would tell jokes that don't involve rude, personal attacks on you.

His problem is that his self-esteem is so low that he feels he must make fun of others to feel better about himself. Sometimes these people are rude to everyone and sometimes they are rude to just a few people or only one person. If they’re physically attractive, then they’ll usually only be rude to a few people, in order to fool most people into thinking they’re nice guys. If they’re not very attractive, they’ll usually be rude to most people since they know that no one will make an extra effort to put up with their cruelty.

It’s important to remember, though, that you are not doing this guy any favors by sticking with him and enabling him to continue this abusive behavior. There's nothing wrong with him having low self-esteem (we all have low self-esteem at some point in our lives) but there is something wrong him dealing with his self-esteem by emotionally abusing others. Try to help him deal with his problems in healthier ways. If that doesn't work after a brief period of time (it’s up to you to decide how much of a “chance” to give him) week, then cut your losses and stop enabling him to be involved in behaviors that are destructive to both him and you.

Answer 6

if you still feel like you've been hurt after he apologizes, then it sure is. people can say things in a joking way, but it can still hurt. there's no such thing as rude jokes. just like there's no such thing as constructive critism. it doesn't matter how good the person's intentions are, it still hurts.

Answer 7

Yes it is a form of abuse it seems that guy is into mental games.

Answer 8

YES. That can be perceived as a form of abuse.

I recommend you IGNORE him, always. Or, at least until he changes his tone toward you.

Answer 9

Yes.Maybe he secretly envies you ,and he's trying to bring you down to his own perceived level.