This question doesn't concern the friends before the relationship? Those people your mate values and respect and choose to keep in there life. This should not be an issues. So please don't focus your repsonse on the "old friends" .
Is it reasonable to have new female friends while in a relationship?
Personally, I'm okay, but only to a certain extent.
For example is alright for your mate, without your knowledge, make a new friend online. If it is reaonsonable, is it okay for your mate to go to the movies with this new friend without you.
Should there be a line drawn to how new female friends should be made and how do you draw that line with your mate so both have a reaonable understanding.
Please provide serious and respectful responses.
2006-12-21 07:22:44 · 11 answers · asked by sexxy_fem1000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This is a very good question, such a relief from all the nonsense questions floating around.
So my answer would be yes, of course its fine for new friends to be made during the relationship...AS LONG as your mate has enough repsect for you to introduce you to the new friend as her partner. Now if other outside friendships are being made and you arent introduced, or you know nothing about them, that's a whole different ballgame of possible ulterior motives behind the so-called "friendship". It's really all about trust & respect. I trust my girlfriend to make other friends because i know that I will become a part of the equation. I am her partner and she doesnt want to have hidden aspects of her life. THAT is mutual respect.
Online friendships are kinda tricky because u dont know how often they communicate or what exactly they're talking about. But if u trust her character, then there shouldnt be any problems.
Going out alone is also okay, and actually very healthy from time to time. We dont do it often only because we love being around eachother too much, but it is a good thing to do sumtimes. As long as you know & trust the person she's going out with. There are a few people who are in my girls life (friends from past b4 i came along though) whom i would NEVER agree to her going out alone with only because the friend has given me a reason to not trust her. But my girl would never even try to go out sumwhere with her out of respect 4 my feelings.
2006-12-21 07:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would never dream of EVER restricting my gf's friends. That for me would cross a serious line. I'm her lover, her partner, and her spouse... not her mother or her friend police. She can pick her own friends and meet them wherever she likes to do whatever she likes without my permission. I have no need to dominate and control my girlfriend or her social calendar. I can always ask to tag along and she can always tell me no.
As long as I have a rough idea where to find her in an emergency and I could meet that friend if I wanted to, everything is fine. My girlfriend has many friends that she has met since our relationship started almost three years ago. Some of her new friends I find annoying, so I would rather she spend time with them without me around. Likewise she finds my new best friend too intellectual, so I don't force my girlfriend to go places with us that would bore her out of her skull.
The only thing that would upset me is if she was refusing to let me meet said friend, or refusing to tell a new friend that she is with me. Those are bad signs. But having new friends is one of the most wonderful parts of life!
Bottom line, I know she is coming home to me, so what she does with her own time is her own choice as a competant individual. I trust her completely. It sounds like you don't trust your girl, because this is really petty, so maybe some counseling for you is in order.
2006-12-21 08:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People meet new people everyday. If a girl becomes friends with another girl while in a relationship, I think its okay - there has to be an element of trust in the relationship to start with. If trust isn't there, then the relationship is going to have a hard time anyway. New and old friends are important, and hey... what's stopping you from becoming friends with that person as well?
2006-12-21 08:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Amy L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question :-)
Friends are important for everyone. As long as your gf introduces you to the friend then it should be ok. If you get upset, your gf could think you don't trust her and that can hurt a relationship.
So as long as your introduced to the new friend and get to do some things with them then it should be ok.
But if she "hides" the friend, like the person above said then you'll have the right to be suspicous.
Remember, relationships are built and are at thier strongest when a lot of trust is put in.
2006-12-21 07:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by tashasw79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the the relationship is platonic, I have no problem. It's when she goes out of her way to hide the friend that I get suspicous. Maybe a line should be drawn, but I guess that line would be different in different relationships.
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2016-09-03 14:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's ok to have other female friends. I make a point to tell my girlfriend when I talk to my friends and make plans so that it doesn't turn into an issue.
2006-12-22 07:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Scully 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very good question. Truckinotter and I have been together for going on 27 years now and while I have other Lady-freinds outside of our relationship, she tends to have Gentleman-freinds. she's just more comfortable with them than other ladies. I have no problem with her having freinds outside of our relationship and she's comfortable with mine. BLessings.
2006-12-21 07:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah,its no different than if you were with a guy and him having a few frineds that were female, it doesn't mean that they're going to cheat on you just cuz they have friends they might be attracted too
2006-12-21 07:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends are friends.
I'm not so insecure that I don't trust my partner. She and I both have made friends since being together. THEY'RE FRIENDS, not lovers.
We're just not that petty.
2006-12-21 08:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋