my boyfriend and i are sixteen and ever since my dad came home from tenneessee he hasn't let my see my boyfriend he even says that i can't be with him because it would be stagitory or something like that. what am i suppose to do?
2006-12-21 07:22:05 · 25 answers · asked by punk_rocker8890 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nothing, he is doing what's best.
2006-12-21 07:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by navy_hobo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is talking about statutory rape. However, that is when someone over the age of consent has sex with someone under the age of consent. Does your Dad know your boyfriend? Some parents just get over-protective especially with daughters when it comes to dating. The main thing they want to avoid is you becomming pregnant while you are still their financial responsibility.
Different states have different ages of consent. Here in Indiana, it is 16. However, the age of maturity is 18. That's the loophole for parents. A parent can still make the rules forbidding a child between the ages of 16 to 18 from going out even though the law says they're old enough to drive and have sex.
Talk with your Dad/parents calmly about this issue and see what his/their reasons are. Don't get mad about anything said. That's the easiest way for parents to think they're right and that you're immature. Listen completely and then make your case. Maybe, you'll get him/them to see things your way. Maybe, you can arrange a compromise. Good luck.
2006-12-21 15:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to him, have an adult conversation with him and figure out wahts the real reason. Let him know that your mind is not on what other teens your age are doing and that your boyfriend is a gentlemen. Introduce him. He still sees you as his lil'girl, speak to him and so him how you've grown up and that he has nothing to worry about..............and if that doesn't work............................SNEAK OUT THE HOUSE!!!!!!!!.............LOL, that was a joke sweetie, just wait til you dad smoothes over, understand that he only wants the best for you. OK Angel, take care and good luck.
2006-12-21 15:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by hated.bymany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your boyfriend weird? i promise you that your dad is not just tryin to be an a**. He obviously loves you if he is stoppong you from seeing the dude. he feels something about him. but if you feel that this guy is the love of your life, talk to your dad calmly and like an adult. it'll go over better. and yes they can keep you from your boyfriend because your still a minor, if your thinkin' legally. in the long run if you listen to your dad you might thank him. Plus if your dad's like mine, and if you can pretend or actually be depressed you can milk lots of stuff out of him! maybe even permittance to see your boy toy again. good luck! :)
2006-12-21 15:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by Halleigh F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically since u r under 18 ur parents are legally responsible for u. u must listen to them. They are trying to do whats best for u even if u don't think what they r doin is wrong. They have lived longer they know better. Listen to them. if u burn bridges now then they will not help u when u need it most later.
2006-12-21 15:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by hail_jimmy_twinkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father is bringing up "stagitory" then im wondering, how old is your boyfriend? If he is way older than you then maybe your father is trying doing what is best
2006-12-21 15:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, there is nothing you can do. Your under 18, your parents can keep you from seeing anyone they want to. I would just do the things they ask you to, it makes for a much smoother couple of years at home. Trust me, im sure your dad has a motive, and im sure in a few years you'll look back and thank him.
2006-12-21 15:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your parents are in charge of you til you are 18! You are supposed to keep your mind on finishing school and getting into college. This boy is just the first of many that you will like and there is plenty of time for boys when you are older!
2006-12-21 15:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have EVERY right to tell you who you can and cannot see at your age. You are still a baby. Believe me when I tell you that, I know it hurts and makes you really mad, but parents can see things in your life that you don't and as parents only want the best for our children. Maybe your father sees in your bf that he isn't right for you, try to listen, after all he is your father and has more life experience than you do.
2006-12-21 15:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you have to live by your Dad's rules until you are old enough to move out and get your own place. I'm sure as frustrating and painful as it is, he's only doing it because he loves you and is worried sick about you. You'll understand someday when you're a parent.
2006-12-21 15:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stagitory rape is only if hes over 18 but if hes not there might be a reason why your dad doesn't want you to see him...
2006-12-21 15:24:34 · answer #11 · answered by *little one* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋