I am 5mo prego and the baby father and I are not together anymore. He tried to deny he was the father and well when we broke up I had told him that I don't need him for anything and to not worry about me putting him on child support because I don't want anything from him. My sister thinks i'm stupid if I don't put him on child support, becasue then I'm giving it to him easy. What do you think?
2006-12-21 07:19:13 · 20 answers · asked by hated.bymany 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been in your shoes and I know it can't be easy for you right now. But this isn't about keeping your word to him, it's about keeping your word to your unborn child. When you made the decision to keep your baby (good for you!) you made a promise to do all you can for him/her. Get the DNA test as soon as medically possible and let him be responsible. He will be a better man for it in the long run and you will feel good knowing you did all you could for your child. Congratulations, mommy to be!
2006-12-21 07:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Msright 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should put him on child support. If you don't, you are letting him off easy. He wanted plenty with you when you getting down n dirty, but now that you are pregnant he doesn't? He had a choice to use protection while he was with you and he didn't. That was a decision the both of you made, so both of you should have financial responsibility of the baby. Who cares if he doesnt want it, it is still his, a baby isn't something you can change your mind about. DO NOT let him go without paying. Child support is yours rightfully or else it wouldn't be there. You and the baby will needthe money, so don't be too stubborn by holding up to words you said while you were upset.
2006-12-21 07:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you. I know that if i was in your situation, i would put his a s s on child support regardless of what i said. If he is the father of this child, then he needs to take responsibility one way or another. Also, if he is trying to deny the child, does he have a reason to or is he trying the "easy way out" by not claiming the baby? Girl, if u cannot afford to pay for a paternity test, you know what is left to do. 3 words: The maury show
2006-12-21 07:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get child support from him no matter what. He'll have to pay for a paternity test if he doesn't think he's the father but listen - you don't know what it costs to raise a child (which is huge) and you can't forsee the future either. Take the child support and then he can decide whether he wants to be any more of a part of your child's life. Swallow your pride...it's his responsibility (at the least) and don't be ashamed about taking the money - it's not for you it's for his child!
2006-12-21 07:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's the father, he should pay child support. It's not about you or him or anyone's pride or ego. Raising a kid is going to cost a lot of money. You want the best for your child? Have the father do the responsible thing and pay child support.
2006-12-21 07:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ross L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is completly up to you. Some woman dont make the father pay child support but if you are going to try and get any assitance from the state that you live in....they will ask who the father is. Then they will request that he pays child support. I believe if you can lay down and make a baby.....support it then!
Its not the babies fault.
2006-12-21 07:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Believe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd do it legally. Its the best thing for your child. You dont have to have contact with the individual but helping to take care of the finances will be a blessing for you, it can get really tough when you're emotional already, and doing things "less traditional"...as there is a tradition anymore...but having financial support will be good for you both. Good luck
2006-12-21 07:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Knees 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your sister. I have a friend **Kari. She has a 3 yr old son and is 25 yrs old- and DOESNT get any child support. She has NO CHOICE but to live at home with her mom because she cant afford a place on her own with her 10.00 an hour job. Its pretty harsh, and her mom is a complete BITC* and doesnt ever let **Kari do anything without taking her son with her. Its going to be very very very difficult without child support to help out. Take him to court and get it automatically deducted from his paychecks. Regardless of your opinion of him now, he still helped get you pregnant, and needs to be held responsible for it. Good Luck
2006-12-21 07:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should pay you some child support, but nothing outragous like some mom's try to ripp their baby daddys off. & I also think regardless of how you feel about him, he should be a part of that childs life. You will need some time to yourself & I think it's appropriate for him to take care of the baby sometimes just so you can have a day to yourself!
2006-12-21 07:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should put him on child support because if you dont you are giving him exactly what he wants. Plus if he tries to not pay it you can take him to court
2006-12-21 07:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by jazmin g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋