i get my hair dyed red so does she i get a new top she buys the same one !!! i look for some perfume for christmas she looks for the same it is really getting on my nerves now what will i do????
2006-12-21 07:18:04 · 16 answers · asked by chaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and uses it to her own advantage!!!
2006-12-21 07:26:06 · update #1
Confront her and tell her that you do not find it complementary that she is coping all your fashion ideas. Tell her that she would be better off trying to find her own style to show the world. But definitely speak with her and do so in a polite way but say what needs to be said.
2006-12-21 07:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her stop!! I hate it when ppl do that, it's really annoying, it's like they have no mind of their own or they wanna be you. Just tell her that you would greatly appreciate it if she desists from copying everything you do. You liked her for who she was b4 she started imitating you. Tell you want a friend, not a carbon copy of you, encourage her hang out with other ppl if you find she's too clingy and if you find she's getting worse, just let her go, friends like that drive you up the wall. I can tell you from experience because i've had family members, friends, aquaintances and even non-friends copy me and it's very frustrating.
2006-12-21 15:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, i had the same problem except mine would use it at an advantage for her but would never help me on anything. I confronted her about it in a nice way. as calmyly as i could. she got all defensive and mad at me. so i severed ties with her. now i hang around with guys. i promise you or as i guy would say scout's honor that they are sooooo much less of a headache and soooooooooo much less drama. my life is now quite simple. Plus they're open and downright honest with you. if they think you're fat they'll tell you. but they also have the best ways to make you fell better. keep your friend if you want but i'd ditch her. Good Luck! :)
2006-12-21 15:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Halleigh F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is actually a form of flattery...she obviously respects you and wants to be like you. Yes, it can be a pain especially if you like to consider yourself a unique individual...perhaps speaking to her about this, telling her you appreciate the fact that she likes all the things you do, but you'd like to see her be more of who she is rather than copying you. Let her know that every once in a while is okay but you don't want people thinking that she can't make decisions on her own.
If you go at it this way...she won't be offended and won't feel attacked.
Good luck
2006-12-21 15:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend copies everything ????
i get my hair dyed red so does she i get a new top she buys the same one !!! i look for some perfume for christmas she looks for the same it is really getting on my nerves now what will i do????
2006-12-21 15:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Do this. Be proud that someone admires you. and if you really want to go the extra mile, teach her some independence. Give her ideas on what to do, but give them to her as options, like "how do you think you'll look better? with a red or a green dress? light or dark lipstick? etc. even let her make some decisions on something you two will look alike (beguin with this, it will be safe for her) ans slowly lead her to make her own decisions independently of yours. like "what color of dress are you going to wear on sunday?... Great, that would look beautiful on you... what color would you suggest for me?...
Something like that. Let me know how it works.
2006-12-21 15:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little scary, is she a really good friend? If so maybe try talking to her if you have not already or if it is untouchable try doing things without her so she can't copy everything.
2006-12-21 15:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by blessedbytheluvofjah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to tell her what your going to do. For example if your getting your hair died then dont tell her wait for her to find out like everyone else. And if its buggin you so much talk to her about it a calm way! :)
2006-12-21 15:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's crazy just tell her that you can't take it anymore tell her that she needs to be her own person andd stop trying to be like you.
2006-12-21 15:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by pink girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you need some time apart or you could just go shopping and by thing she cant aford
2006-12-21 15:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by kayia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋