Do you think child support ?

Question

Do you think child support should be monitored ?

I saw something on tv today where this guy refused to pay his exwife the support out of fear she would use it to buy things for the new baby she is carrying which is not his. I was surprised when dr phil( I rarely watch ) told him it was none of his business what she spent that money on.

I think if someone has to pay child support, the person receiveing it needs to be able to prove they are spending it on their kids, receipts on what not. I mean child support is not supposed to be paying the mortgage or cell phone bills of the other adult mom or dad.

DO you think child support when given should be able to be monitored and if it's not used in the best intrest of the child it should be cut off unless the person paying buys what the child needs?

YES OR NO ONLY PLEASE, I don't care to hear stories

believe i am married with kids and unlike the rest of this country I work at my marriage everyday, I dont give up. been married 15 yrs and counting

why can't you just follow simple instructions, yes or no

Answer 1

Yes, if the non-custodial parents are monitored regarding their payment, then I believe it's equally important to monitor how custodial parents spend this money.

However, I disagree with part of your premise, a portion of the rent or mortgage and utilities is a legitimate expense when it comes to the use of Child Support (CS).

So, if using another case we saw here, a woman leaving her husband with three kids, two of them being his, then 1/2 of the rent and untilites would be legitimate expenses covered by the child support he provides, since two of the four people are his children.

I guess I could follow instructions better if your question wasn't so judgmental.

Many of us who are divorced are divorced against our wills, and the work we too did on our marriages turned out to be fruitless and our spouses had the affair anyway AND got to take our children with them.

You were free to quit reading after YES or NO. So, I suggest you stop trying to control how people respond and control what is under your control, your eyes and what you choose to read.

Answer 2

Child support isnt just black or white so a YES or NO will not always suffice. Child support also goes towards a portion of the rent, utilites, gas for her car to take the kid places, daycare etc etc. It isnt just food or clothes. If you feel that funds are being mis appropiated then you need to contact a lawyer. Regardless how much the custodial parent makes, the other parent is still obligated to take care of their child(ren)

Answer 3

Child support and custody are two different issues. Both have to be court ordered. Since your father was court ordered to pay child support to your mother, that's what he's doing. Since you mother was granted custody of you via another court order, you are living with her. If you want to live with your father, and your mother is not willing to allow you to do so, he would need to go back to court and petition that the original ruling giving your mother custody be overturned. In order for that to be successful, he would have to prove that living with your mother is a danger to your life and safety. So no, you saying you don't like your mom (as all children your age do sooner or later) is not going to make a judge overrule an existing custody order.

Answer 4

You're not asking the question right.

Only yes or no?

You need to ask ONLY people who give or recieve child support and have them give you a yes or no answer.


I pay support, so I say YES it needs to be monitored.

99% chance that those who say NO either don't have any children or they receive child support.


BTW, Bills have hit congress about this and in most states the Bills fail to become law.

Answer 5

Yes

Answer 6

Yes

Answer 7

NO

child support is meant to pay for more than just the immediate needs of the child. they need a place to live, food, clothes, and that, true. But what about the phone bill - if theres an emergency you would want the parent to be able to call the doctor, right? What about a car - you want the parent to be able to drive the kid to school and get to work, right? And electric and gas and heat bills, you dont want the kid to live in a home without that, right?

Answer 8

Yes, in a way. I use my child support for my oldest to pay for his school and daycare bill. But, I think if they monitor it, and someone is using it for their own pleasure or someone elses, other then the child it is intended for, I think it should automatically be deposited into an account that is in the childs name. One that the parent cant touch. So that, the absent parent still has to pay, but the parent who blows the c.s. cant touch it and the child still has that money when he or she needs it.

Answer 9

I agree with you, unfortunately it will never happen. For every woman that might abuse child support there's 5 men who are doing the right thing at all. So you the system accepts some abuse in order to see to it that the women and men who are doing theright can recieve the support that they need

Answer 10

Yea I agree, It should be spent on the child or on housing. But really, all you'd have to show are receipts that the mortgage or rent has been paid. I agree as far as vacations or plastic surgery or crap like that. My husbands ex spends all his child support on her house payment. So all the money she makes at her job is on food, and clothing for herself and the kids. Its ok I guess, but it kind of ticks me off sometimes because she is always going on vacations or doing home remodeling and we have been saving every penny for 2 yrs to go to ireland on our honeymoon when she goes on vacation 2-3 times per yr.