2006-12-21 07:05:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I'm 30, single, college educated and I do not want children. Need Reasons?
1. I do NOT want the responsibility of being the sole protector of someone else's life. The very thought fills me with chillls. Leave for 5 minutes and it could mean life or death. It could mean spending the rest of YOUR life in jail for the neglect of those 5 minutes!
2. I do NOT want the responsibility for being the one to show and tell someone what is right and wrong in life. Karma kicks your *** and if I'm wrong I want to be the only one to suffer my mistakes.
3. I do NOT want to be responsible for someone's future happiness. Studies show that the mother is the most important and influential person in anyone's life. I know myself that I both blame and praise my mother for the person that I am. I do not want someone else to put me on a pedestal or damn me to hell for what they feel I'm responsible for in their psyche.
4. In addition to my regular job, I am an artist. I wake at 2 AM and begin to pace. I think and talk to myself. I scribble in my sketchbook before turning to the canvas. I drink wine and contemplate color and light, shadow and gradation. I lay on the floor and await the Muse...I don't think this is healthy for a child...I don't think a 5 year old would understand that Mommy needs silence for the flow to come to her. Mommy needs to be left alone to think and SEE what is being shown to her.
5. My family has diabetes, cancer, obesity, heart disease, liver and kidney failures, high blood pressure...I would not wish these genes on my worse enemy. Best that the tree no longer branches!
6. I do not have the temperment. I am often high-strung and raw nerves. I pace, I fret, I sigh, I wring my hands endlessly...a child's cries send me into frantics...just not good. My nerves could not handle it. Someone else's child crying makes me want to silence it with whatever placation device I can come up with... My god! Just Give it Something!!!
7. The idea of pregnancy makes me physically ill. Gaining that much weight and having hips that large and having something INSIDE you squirming while it feeds off you...I'd rather NOT.
8. The idea of childbirth (and the Alien movie visions of something shredding it's way out of me that it brings) makes me want to jump off a bridge instead.
9. The idea of losing control of my own body would send me into hysterics. Bladder/appetite control anyone?
10. I'd rather spend my money on paint, wine, pasta and men than on Pampers.
11. Mary had a little lamb...but I ate it.
12. I sang "I hate you, you hate me. Let's hang Barney from a tree..." to my neices and felt NO GUILT!
13. Andrea Yates.
14. Deep-down underneath it all, I know that I was NOT meant to breed. I am an artist. I am a woman. I am creative. I have much more to offer this world and at 14 years old, I knew that I did NOT want children.
15. In all truth, I love children and had at one time wanted to teach high school English. Lets take care of the ones that are already here! Lets give them what they need. Don't add to the over-population problem.
Finally I'd like to state that I am "Childfree" not "Childless". While one donotes the missing of something, the other tells the truth...I am without something that I don't necessarily need or want (think fat-free). I have never been maternal, matronly or motherly. It's just not going to happen! I am happy as a free, artistic, sexual, creative, liberated woman. Take me or leave me.
I respect those who choose to give birth and nurture and love and give of themselves (oh so much!) for the following generations...however, I expect the same respect from them in return. I choose NOT to and it is a CHOICE we each must make for ourselves.
2006-12-21 13:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by AH0030 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Childless
2016-05-23 06:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are brave and confident enough to go against societal norms and not have children if they don't have that serious maternal urge. There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that you wouldn't be a good parent and don't want to have kids.
Some people would call them selfish, but I commend them highly for standing up and admitting that they want to accomplish something else with their lives instead of spending 21+ years raising another person. My own sister made that choice. She has been all over the world and seen so many wonderful things. She has a good job and a wonderful home and husband, so why louse up a good thing?
I was home in a miserable marriage, raising three kids practically alone and she was off exploring the world and meeting fantastically interesting people.
2006-12-22 05:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The same reason some men choose to remain childless. They don't want children. They prefer to live their lives without having to focus all their attention, time and resources on a child for the next 18 years.
2006-12-21 07:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is a personal choice and bearing children involves a tremendous amount of money, time and responsibility. There are a lot of terrible mothers out there who should never had children and then there are women who are intelligent enough to know that children are not what they need to be happy or feel complete. This also would go for men who choose to not have children as well.
2006-12-21 07:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Here in the south, many women look at raising children and being a housewife as the ultimate goal in their lives. If they were nothing else in life but a mother, they would die content and happy.
Not all women feel that way. Just as going to college is to some people, having children is a path in life that one can choose to go down, or choose to pass up. Nobody is wrong or right for choosing that path. It is only one path among many.
2006-12-21 07:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mandragon 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question is as broad as the east is to the west and the north is to the south. Each answer would come from a personal perspective. Theres no standard uniformed answer. That form of action(not wanting any kids) could come from maybe a childhood experience, watching from the sideline of mothers struggling terribly with their own kids or maybe they felt personally that they were a burden to their own parent which, logically, they wouldnt want a child whose a burden to them.
Thats just a few reasons.
2006-12-21 16:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by ChanteC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some never meet the right man, some spend a life time with a marred man who never left his wife and wasted all the best years of her life, some are unable to have biological children, some simply do not want children. God bless****
2006-12-21 10:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have goals in life besides reproducing? Many times women are discriminated against because employers figure that she has children and won't be able to work overtime and will have to take days off when the kids are sick. Not being responsible for helpless human beings allows you more time to focus on your career, friends, hobbies, etc.
Another possibility is that they know they can't survive if they aren't working, and believe that dropping your kids off at daycare to be raised by strangers is wrong. I would like to have children if I could stay home and raise them myself and make sure they are only being exposed to appropriate things, but I also feel that I want to have my own money because I don't want to be dependent on my husband...that would make me feel inferior to have to ask for money from him.
2006-12-21 07:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Julia 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
In addition to all the other answers, a childless friend confessed to me that she didn't want children because of what it would do to her body.
2006-12-21 07:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Judith 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I choose it because I have better things to do with my life than take care of babies. No offense to those women that have kids, but I know that kids aren't for me. And I think that if a woman doesn't want kids, then she shouldn't have any. I'd rather see that than a woman with a bunch of kids she wishes she never had. Some people shouldn't be parents. I'm one of those people.
2006-12-21 07:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by Maria Isabel 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋