With all the divorces I've seen and heard about and how women seem perfectly fine on their own afterward with the kids I wonder if we matter anymore. I know that a lot of these guys aren't woth spit but I also know that women are looking for this idealized prince charming that has no faults and fits their idea of the perfect match to the way the women see their lives (and women complain about us guys wanting hot chicks, well.....). So I hear stories of guys being dumped because they weren't perfect or something and there is all this female empowerment talk going around and a lot of male bashing (some of which is called for), and women are even being encouraged to live totally independant from men. So what about family? Do us guys even matter anymore or are we just sex toys/fertility tools for women nowadays?
2006-12-21 06:57:46 · 6 answers · asked by InvicibleStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats not true... women arnt encouraged to live independently from men... they are encouraged to compete with men.
and all divorces and break ups arnt because the husband or boyfriend was flawed... most of the time its because something happened or something was said...
i dont know if this has happened to you, but if it has dont use go off that one experience to judge all women...
2006-12-21 07:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do women need men when they can handle ALMOST anything a man can do without them? I am married and love my husband dearly, but if we were to divorce my thought is to do my best for the children. Which may seem like being perfectly fine, but it's far from it. Both women and men have to be strong for the sake of the children so that might be what comes across as "perfectly fine." In Japan, most couples don't get married till at least one, but a lot of the time both, sides are established in their career (even if the woman leaves when she has children). It's okay for women to feel like they can do things on their own, really.
2006-12-21 16:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine Swirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My reason for divorce was abuse, and it took the state to make me choose other wise I would not have left him- to answer your question though, yes guys still matter, but it seems like a lot of women either put up with loosers (like myself) or demand perfection, like you mentioned. It seems like the typical woman stereo-type of us not being happy either way.
Personally I would love a father for my children and would like to think I do not have high standards except for the way the man treats me.
If you are asking this question out of your own personal failures of women dumping you, I am sorry, you sound like a decent guy from the way you asked this question, and do not give up, and do not change for the worse, there is a woman looking for a man that wants a family from some one like you.
2006-12-21 15:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are not.
there are still some women out there that believe in love and family but either they just haven't found the right guy yet, afriad, or arn't mature enough to handle that kind of relationship.
you kinda have to look at it from the woman's side too. most of the time guys in high school and college are mainly in it for sex and dumps the girl when he finally gets it then when they get out of that enviorment and a guy is showing intrest she's probally thinking "does he really like me? or does he just want sex?" thats also taken into account at times, too.
thats why girls are so ......picky, and they are taught to be independent so that if the guy turns out not to be her "prince charming" then she knows that she won't be dumped on the curb with no place to go.
but i do admit some girls are real bitches
2006-12-21 15:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by little sister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My m an matters alot to me. Alot of women out there are on this feminist trip that THEY should be treated like a queen, they're needs come first, and men are also mean horn-dog pigs. Women seem to forgot that men have feelings!! (and you're a good exampl!!) Men need jsut as much attention as women do, if not more. Like hot meals to say i love you, THANK YOUS for little things and so on.
I'm sorry you've yet to find a real women out there buddy, but we do exsist!! good luck!
I also agree with the guy above me. Except for the "women are taught to complete men" not in todays american society. its sad...
2006-12-21 15:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Radical fems have done a good job, haven't they. Don't think it's by accident that women behave this way. It's been prosletized through womens magazines, education, and tv for a long time
2006-12-21 15:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by lefty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋