In this circumstance every friend he invites to be his friend is a woman with a tight body, usually 20-30 years younger than him and the extremely out going, like to tease kind of woman. I am not an ugly woman by far although I am also not in my twenties either. Should I be worried as I am concerned that it really isn't a long shot to believe that one day I will be replaced by one of these "cyber chicks".
Trust has become a very sensitive issue in my relationship at this point in time.
2006-12-21 06:57:33 · 9 answers · asked by Laydown Sally 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How good I am in bed should not be an issue and in regards to that I will honestly say that the intimacy has never suffered so it isn't that he must look elsewhere whatsoever.
And I am more apt to question whether this is a mid life crisis on his part?
2006-12-21 07:02:23 · update #1
In retrospect of all these wonderful answers I must say that I have discussed this issue with him and also copied each of his friends scantily clad photographs in an offline file which he is aware that I have. His myspace page is full of models and centerfolds he will never come close to but some of these others on 360 will go to any length to get what they want. Unfortunately, one of these women posted his photograph and stated she was his woman on her page and his. She then went after me personally and he did not react for over 24 hours to what this twisted little thing had done. By the way, it was his own daughter that reported this woman and found her own fathers photo on her page as well as threats against me.
My self esteem is at level -0 and it shouldn't be.
2006-12-21 07:27:01 · update #2
I'm sorry to hear that. Its probably more of an esteem issue and fantasy that he wont live out. Its just on the pc and not your local club. Why not have a talk w/him and try spicing up the relationship more. Get out of the house and get together w/friends. He may just be bored.
2006-12-21 07:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although it may seem as if he's going onliine to meet other "cyber chicks", it might not be the case. From the description, it seems like you husband is on myspace. Guys sometimes collect these friends like trading cards or playboy magazines. It gives us an avenue to look at women with out having to pay for membership to x-rated sites and such. Girls majority of the time have them linked to their other sites that do charge but with myspace they get a little tease. And a reason why there are a lot of "cyber chicks" on his page is do to the fact that once your connected to one, they keep track of this and continue to want to be added as a friends in hopes that a person might visit their site and pay money.
Of course though... you truly need to confront him on this issue and let him know about how you feel. If everything else is great in your relationship, this shouldn't be a problem.
I hope this helps your situation, and wish you nothing but the best.
2006-12-21 07:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the trust between the two of you is now on shaky ground. I'm sorry that you're going through this. I don't believe it's such a long shot in your belief about these "cyber chicks." (my apologies, I had to chuckle at this phrase, it's the first time I've heard it.)
In my humble opinion, girlfriend, it sounds like your spouse feels the need to have his ego stroked again and again. Maybe he feels "powerful" because he has these particular women as his "friends."
I know that the mature answer would be to discuss this with him, tell him how it makes you feel, if he thinks you're overreacting, get counseling, consider leaving him, etc. But I would hit him first with this. How would HE feel if the situation were reversed? (Not saying you have to, just put him in your shoes.) It's bothering you and YOUR feelings should come first, not his ego, besides, what does a 20 year old woman have that you don't??
Good luck, Sally, let me know how it's going.
2006-12-21 07:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever cross your mind that you husband could be going through a "mid life crisis?" It happens. I am very open and sometimes too blunt but I would ask him why he iesn't befriending other men, just younger women and I would also ask if you did this and befriended young hardbodies with 6 pack abos how he would feel!
2006-12-21 07:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would be offended. The internet has brought about great advantages to our society... but it has also broken many a marriage. If you're uncomfortable than it's a problem, period. He's opening up a gateway for who-knows-what... and you have a right to feel upset. Discuss this with him. If your feelings, and your marriage, are important to him... he won't see a problem in cutting off these "friendships".
2006-12-21 07:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by AngelBaby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like a mid life crisis, perhaps he just wants to know he can still get the attention from younger women. He probly likes the attention they give him, I doubt its more than that. Alot of the time people just like to know that they "still have it"
2006-12-21 07:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by jzgermany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a mid life issue,but then again you can never be too careful.While you are sussing out where you are in this relationship,check out where you stand legally to entitlements,if push comes to shove.
2006-12-21 07:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a fake profile, befriend him and make it a goal to find out just exactly what he's up too even if it consist of you and him meeting.
2006-12-21 07:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Posibly replaced but more likely he will borrow one for a while
2006-12-21 07:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by efiles2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋