My wife and i are going to be getting a divorce. It's Not by my choice but she says she has fallen out of love with me after 3 years. I dont abuse her, i dont cheat on her, i dont smoke,drink or party. I have a great job at an engineering company. I am also in collage right now. I take care of them just as much as she does. She even says i am a great father and there is nothing bad to say about me but she cant handle not seeing them more then a day so she wants them to stay with her and i see them on the weekends. I do not want to be a weekent father. I want to read bedtime stories and make a mess doing breakfeast and i want what i think is just. I live in nevada so i dont no the law that well. do i even have a chance to have shared custody of my kids and what case do i need to bring to the judge for me to get it. Her own mother will testify against her saying that all she does is yell and scream that saying her mother has been married 6 times but i still have her own mothers back.
2006-12-21 06:57:29 · 10 answers · asked by anthony v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know what you are going through. It's really tough when yopu get divorced and have children. You have to fight with all you got to be with them as much as possible go to court if you have to prove to the court that you are as capable as her to provide for your children. Document everything she does or says it will be an asset in court. Good luck and GOD bless
2006-12-21 07:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you I am not an expert but a passionate by civil law...The only thing i recommend is to get a good lawyer a good one that have allots experince...You will only get a share custody if is nothing against her...Most of the people yell and scream...That is not a good case...Unless she is doing to the babys...Yelling to the babys yes they maybe give you the full custody but if she goes the court and proof that she get some professional help then it will be a share like I say anyway if you say that all she does is yell and scream..Her own lawyer will recommend inmidiatley to go and get help to present this in court so is just waste of time etc and will be bad for the girls...Let me tell you if she is good mother to her childrens don't go for the full custody...It can work trust me if both of you agree to do anything good for the girls that should be the first thing on your mind and hers ofcourse....Is truth people fall out of love it just happend now are two girls that they don't deserve to be in the middle of a war...So do a peaceful ending and in the long term it will be good fro the girls and both of you...You will need some free time just like the girls mother and why not be share with one of you the parents...Right now you can't think straight...Eventually you wil see is a good idea...By the way why to involve more people on situation like this were is just the two of you and the girls...Don't make your life bitter it will make you girls life bitter too...Move on and do it the reazonable way....
2006-12-21 07:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can still talk with your soon to be ex about the kids maybe you should suggest a parenting coordinator to figure out the best way you and her can co-parent together. It will be easier than fighting with lawyers and the courts. It is funny how men are dumped on but that is the system and the system is broken. Remember never to bad-mouth your ex and remember that your children have the right to love both of you equally.
If you come up with a shared parenting plan that is fair all you would have to do is have the judge attached it to the divorce settlement lets face it judges don't want the job so if both parties agree then it make that part easier.
Good luck
2006-12-21 07:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is highly unlikely that the courts will grant you custody of two infants. Most states have passed laws that state that there is to be no predjudicial preference between mother and father and that a judge is SUPPOSED to weigh all things equally.
Sadly, this almost never happens even though it is the law. Judges even in progressive states like Nevada will almost always side with the mother unless you can prove she is somehow unfit or if you are lucky enough to draw a father-friendly or equality-friendly judge.
They are rare my friend.
Get a good lawyer, and you may be able to get them quite a bit but you will probably not get domicilliary parent status over her.
2006-12-21 07:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by stifledman c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go stay with your parents for the remainder of the pregnancy, and see what happens. Tell him that you will not come back, until he starts treating you with respect and acting like he truly loves you. Tell him that the twins are his children too, and you need help once in a while with them. Tell him with the new baby coming, he is going to have to be more patient and give you more help at home. Tell him that you will not live in a loveless marriage, and if he does not love you anymore, then he needs to let you know, so that you can move on too. By the way, many jobs do not want employees getting phone calls. Unless he let you call him often before at work, you should not really be bothering him when work is paying for his time.
2016-05-23 06:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more custodial arrangements than just weekends for the non-custodial parent. Since you are in college as well as working, that's going to be a problem convincing a judge that you have the time for children that young.
Check with an attorney to see what arrangements are possible for the non-custodial parent to have more than just weekend access. Go for more access without having primary custody.
2006-12-21 07:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me give advice on it being four years from now.
Heed the advice of others... Do what you can and do the best for your girls...
But in four/five years get them involved in Girl Scouts. I've done this for each of my three daughters and aside from the regular visitation (we share joint custody - her having physical custody) I have the girls for all Girl Scout activities.
As they progress in age your visitation time can triple to quadruple... I was a Girl Scout leader for each of my three daughters, along with being a cookie mom (lol), the service unit recruiter, a multi-service unit leader member, etc.
What this did was provide me two evenenings and every other weekend of normal visitation with my girls.
Including Girl Scout meetings, it increased to five nights a week and any weekend when I didn't normally have visitation, if it was a Girl Scout function, I got the girls!
Since I was a leader and a service unit core member... I had TONS of time where I set forth what activities the Girl Scouts did... Met a lot of nice Mom's along the way, and my girls still remain good friends with many of their former Girl Scout Troop members.
Yep... Ten years I was a leader! (Which included my stepdaughter too.) So 4 Troops were due to me!
Good luck!
2006-12-21 09:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A T T O R N E Y is what you need. As for 50/50 custody that is highly likely today.
2006-12-21 07:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for joint custody equal time both parents good luck
2006-12-21 07:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I don't see why not .
2006-12-21 07:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋