I think I'm just going to give up on making friends in high school. 'm a senior and will be out in 5 months. It's hard for me because of my depression, social anxiety disorder, avoidant personality disorder, and just hating myself in general. Sometimes I really want to be friends with them, other times I just get so frustrated with myself I don't even try and just keep to myself. They like me enough as an acquaintance I guess, I'm nice to them, and I think I'm going to get them all little christmas and birthday presents. It's like I guess I know they like me enough but I can't convince myself of that or go talk to them, and I worry that that has hurt my chances because they think I'm not interested but I'm just shy. I had facebook (myspace) for a while to keep in touch and talk to them a little more but I couldn't take the stress and got rid of it and now I've lost that connection and possibly upset them. But I just cant approach people.
2006-12-21 06:54:36 · 11 answers · asked by leena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you need to take a deep breath and just chill. Let life play out how it will. Since you're so shy, it makes you a good listener, try listening to some of there problems and help them out instead of striking up a special conversation. Teenagers are best friends with those who listen the most to them. Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-21 06:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to "buy" friendship. If you really like these people and want to keep the lines open with them and have in the past, then buy them a gift. If not, I wouldn't spend the money. You may try a self-help group for persons with the same or similar disorders as a startting point to make friends. You may get some tips if you sit in on a few sessions and ya just might make a new friend there too.
2006-12-21 07:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found the Bible to be a pretty good instruction book for life. It says that "to have a friend you must show yourself friendly." You need to take the focus off of yourself and your "problems" and truly care about others to befriend them. You CAN approach people. You have just as much worth as the next guy. God made us all equal like that. You've let someone convince you otherwise. Value yourself and others will value you. Respect yourself and others and others will respect you. Reach out to others and you will find them reaching back to you. There are SO MANY people out there who feel just the same way you do. if no one does the reaching out no one ever gains a friend. Just do it. You have it within you to do it. Take the first step. Real friends are worth finding.
2006-12-21 07:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many high school girls are devils. I did better with the guys, nerd guys in my case. I finally found my niche in college and have good real Friends. Not the whiny why did you talk to my boyfriend, why did you talk to that girl type.
You will eventually find people who like you for who you are. Being different as an adult is not so bad. Different is bad in high school I dint know why.
Being shy usually fades with age. Is it easier to talk with adults? That's OK only in school are you surrounded by people of you own age. BTW almost everyone lacks self confidence as a teen, even those who dont act like it. You are OK, look for someone else who looks left out and befriend them. It woudl be good for you both
2006-12-21 07:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey well let me be the 1st to say you are doing great, you didnt seem to have a problem in the world expressing yourself totally~ so for that i'd like to "APPLAUD" you.. just relax you seem to be an outstanding person, take it easy & concentrate on what it is you want, want to do & how you wanna do it & go 4 it.... also there may be a problem with depression but thats so common now a dayz all you have to do is keep expressing yourself, dont hold back & be comfortable with who you are, youve told us about a few steps that shows you can be outgoing you just gotta stay focused...good luck, best wishes & plzzzzz keep us posted b/c id love to hear more about this....
2006-12-21 07:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying! thinking that "oh it'll get better in college" is just a way to procrastinate. Even if there's only 5 months left, make those 5 months count. Keep trying to think of ways to approach people, keep trying to make yourself more comfortable with others around.
2006-12-21 06:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats alot of problems to have while you are so young... Have you gotten councelling. I think you have some serious self esteem issues. Solving those problems first will help you NOW and in the future. You dont want to go away to college and have the same problems there.
2006-12-21 06:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some help
2006-12-21 07:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by The Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up instead email them exactly what you just said then maybe they will approach you instead because now they understand whats going on
2006-12-21 06:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by little sister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i have also faced this type of problem few weaks ago...
now i am ok....
do with them many activites enjoy with them have fum with them ..
help them love them ... u will surely get them
even 1 month in enough for strong frdship....
2006-12-21 07:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by iitan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋