"let" their man do something he wants to do. Why do you feel like you need to "let" him do anything (outside the bedroom of course). Since when does it become you giving him permission rather than a partnership?
2006-12-21 06:51:53 · 26 answers · asked by ksmpmjoll 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and I'm single I just hear from my buds "my wife wont let me" all the time
2006-12-21 06:56:00 · update #1
When finances are combined that is when all the permission stuff surfaces.
2006-12-21 06:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... why is there the fact that husbands/boyfriends control the lives of their women? There is no true perception that wives/girlfriends "let" their man do anything... I am sure there are men who lives are controlled by insecure wives/girlfriends and they do have to ask permission or it's hell when they get home.
So let me let you in on some secrets.
A lot of your "buddies" may be using their so-called "controlling" wife/girlfriend as an excuse to get out of doing something.
Also I've had many male friends who jokingly say they have to ask their wife's permission to do anything.
If your buddies are truly in a relationship where they have to ask permission, well don't just blame the wife/girlfriend....take a hard look at your spineless buddy as well.
Relationships go both ways and it is a partnership. As for me I do ask my husband his "permission" on some things as a courtesy and I do give him the option of vetoing anything because in the end I go home to him and he's not the unreasonable sort.
If he was controlling or unreasonable I would've never married him or kicked him to the curb a long time ago.
2006-12-21 07:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by hw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think a partnership is exactly what that is. i have had my bf not let me do something before. the reason i say this is that when you are in a serious relationship or married then any decision one person makes effects both people. it is saying "i would like to do this. do you have an opinion?" and if you are with someone you love, which i hope you are since you are in a relationship then i doubt that she is not "letting" you for spite. there is probably a good reason behind it.
2006-12-21 06:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by mel2430 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about permission to me. It's about courtesy and compromise. It's a courtesy that allows the wife to make other plans or let her spouse know she feels uncomfortable about whatever it is he's planning. It's a compromise too because if guys (or wives) just did whatever they wanted whenever they wanted, there wouldn't be much time for family and if it's not about that then why bother being married?
2006-12-21 06:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't want your gf/wife angry at you for ditching dinner to go bowling or something like that, so you give her a call and fill her in. Maybe she made something special and has on a negligee so insists that you come home instead, boy what an evening you would have ruined had you not called home first, and yes she would've been severly pissed for going to all that trouble for you and you didn't even show up or call. Get the idea?
2006-12-21 06:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by lilmama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because since birth, men have had women raising them. So they look to us for guidence. So, instead of a man just doing what he wants, he seeks approval from his SO (and vice versa, belive it or not) And since you make the point of "partnership" one must make sure it is ok with their other half to do something. If you just go and do something wtihout the others intake, then you are just being a single and not respecting your other half.
2006-12-21 06:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually what he "wants" to do is not cohesive to the relationship and most women "let" them do it anyway. If men would just grow up women wouldn't have to let them do anything. Isn't it always that she let him go to the strip club, let him play golf on Sunday while she is stuck with the kids, let him stop off at the bar after work while she is at home cooking dinner and doing a million other things ?????
2006-12-21 06:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like that. Why do men feel the need to let there wives/girlfriends do something? Why do women have to get permission?
2006-12-21 06:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by funbobbi22 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is not like that all the time i have to be the one that wears the pants and make sure that he is in line all the time because that is just me and i let I'm know before we got together and he is fine with it but i understand what you mean about partnership and i think it works well for some but not for all!
2006-12-21 06:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since any man knows after any real length of time with a woman it is usually just easier to work within her dictate than it is to fight for what you want.
Guys who "take charge" used to be called "men". Now we are called "controlling".
I give up.
By the way "wife won't let me" really means "wife will be mad if I do".
2006-12-21 06:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
MY HUSBAND ALWAYS DOES WHAT HE WANTS I WANT HIM HAPPY AND HE WORKS HARD SO WHEN HE HAS TIME OFF HE NEEDS TO RELAX AND BE HAPPPY HE DOES SO MUCH FOR ME AND THE KIDS HOW COULD I POSSIBLE FILL LIKE I HAD THE RIGHT TO SAY HE COULDNT HES A BIG BOY AND IM NOT HIS MOMMY IM HIS WIFE IM HIS LOVER AND HIS BEST FRIEND BUT NOT HIS MOM IF YOUR WOMEN GIVE YOU PERMISSION MAY BE ITS CAUSE YOU ASK ?
2006-12-21 06:56:39 · answer #11 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋