when is it the best time to look for a marriage mate?

Question

I am currently 19>& I go to college. I don't have a G.friend and I never had one. I just wasn't ready.
if you are to marry someone, you got to have a courtship for some years to get to know them better for some years. What age should you start to date a future marriage mate.

I would prefer a mature comment please probably from experienced ones and parents.

Answer 1

After college. Wait until you are 30 years old. Personal experience.

Answer 2

Only your heart will be able to tell you this. You'll know when your ready.

You are to young to be considering marriage so soon. Although it may be in a persons culture to marry immediatly, it's not always the best case.

Dating is kinda like a treasure hunt and takes time. Sure you might find some nice gems, coins, etc. out there, but you have to keep searching until you truly have your greatest find.

Sooner or later, you'll find out your likes and dislikes in a person and you can slowly weed them out. Don't cut them out of your life completely because majority of times they turn into good friends, and could possibly help you find what you are looking for.



I hope this helps!

Answer 3

In my own experience, and I'm considerably older than you, I have found that it's when you stop looking that the right one comes along. There is such a thing as trying too hard. There is no set age or certain amount of time to date or anything like that. My grandparents knew each other a total of 20 minutes before my grandfather proposed. They were married over 60 years and parted only when he passed away. I had a friend who dated her husband for over 10 years before they married. Their marriage lasted 6 months.

Bottom line, when it's right, it's right. When it's not, don't try to make it be.

Answer 4

Okay,
You are currently going to school and that is great!
Finish school, get to know yourself in the adult world, what do you like to do? What makes you happy? Do you like to travel? Do things that make you happy..... just be true to yourself.
When you are a little older, a little wiser, and have done things being single, you will know the time to look for a girl friend or spouse. When you find the one, your courtship is up to you both. A year? 2 years? You will know when the time is right.
Just be open, honest and respectful. Make sure you both have similar goals....
Good luck!

Answer 5

You have all the time in the world to find a marriage mate. You need to go to college and establish a life for yourself. So many people get married way too young. Take time to live life and travel if you can. You will me loads of people in college and who knows your miss right might pop up out of nowhere before you know it. Enjoy college life and remember you will have plenty of time to settle down.

Answer 6

You shouldn't even be considering marriage right now.

Focus on your career and building a solid foundation for yourself. If your work takes you to a faraway place, you need to be able to go. If you're married, this will be harder to accomplish.

Don't put any roots down until your career is well established and you're financially secure. Then, you'll know yourself better, you'll know what's important to you, what you're good at, and what you need. You'll be better qualified to choose the right mate for you the first time.

Also - you'll have more social polish...you'll be more charming, wise, and worldly...which I've found to be a positive thing when dating.

So, please - Don't be in any rush to marry right now. Just focus on yourself and your career for awhile. You'll be happy you did. I know I am.

Answer 7

Just some facts: 85% of marriages between the ages of 18-25 end in divorce. Thats a pretty high number.

Answer 8

I suspect you come from a different culture from most of the people who are going to answer you here on Q & A, which makes it very difficult to tell you what would be best for you. My opinion would be that you should concentrate with all your heart and effort on your studies, so that you can make yourself well equipped for life in this world, and as a responsible adult. Just as YOU wish to find a good woman who will make the best partner for life, any good and intelligent woman is going to be looking for a good, smart, intelligent man who has shown his value by working hard to become something in life. She will be wanting a man who shows clearly, that he cares about his responsibilities as a future husband and father.
You are now in college, and this is the most important time of your life for you to be working hard to prepare yourself to be worthy of that "right woman" when you meet her. This is the teaching that I and my friends gave their sons, and it has worked very well.

Answer 9

after you meet your gf wait about a year and than move in with them ... if all goes well marry the next year after both of you finish college..use birth control even if she is on the pill sometime women will say they are taking the pill when they are not or they will forget to take it..and you want to be married when you have kids because that give you equal right to the child if she leaves you or you decide to leave her .. if you are not married you have no rights as a father except to pay child support and if you don't you lose your license and could end up in jail

Answer 10

I suggest dating someone for at least a year before even considering marriage. Look for someone who has intrests simliar to yours, someone who is kind and faithful and also looking for a long term commitment. Take your time in getting to know them so you dont make any mistakes, because marriage is a life long commitment. when you are ready you will know what to do.