Females only. Please help with my 16 years she will not go to doctor what should I do?

Question

okey she 16, and she is the smallest girl in her class,she is not devolept, she has no shape, I have been worried about her cuz she has not started her period yet i have asked her to a doctor, but she will not disscuss it with me any suggtion?

Answer 1

put her butt in the car and take her to the DR yourself..She may need help at least an exam

Answer 2

It sounds like she is already self conscious about her body. Not all girls start their periods by 16 some have started later, but you have already noticed she is not developing like she should. I would tell her that your going to make an appointment with a doctor to make sure something serious isn't going on. If she is not going to help you take responsibility then YOU are going to have to assume full responsibilities. Since, she is still in her "growing" years now would be the time to make any corrections if possible, ie medication and treatments if need be. But in the same breath I would not make a big deal out of it (if you know what I mean)

Say something to the effect of - "I know your gonna be mad and you know I'm a worry wart, but I have made a doctor appointment (make the appointment first) for you to make sure nothing serious is going on that can cause future harm, lets just be safe and have you checked out, because I don't know what I would do if I lost you due to not having you checked out" I hope this helps.

Answer 3

When my daughter turned 15 and hadn't really had a period, I suspected something might not be quite right. She had always been one of the smaller girls in her class when younger. She was developing slowly, and having difficulty with acne, like some teenage girls do. But then I noticed she had a couple of chin hairs. I knew then that I needed to take her to the doctor. They ran blood tests that confirmed a hormone imbalance - - - - probably Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). They prescribed birth control pills to bring on her period and then regulate it. It worked, and even her breasts became fuller. However, for the past 2 years since this, she has battled major mood swings and depression from the pills.

Encourage her to consider a female GYN. Skip going to her regular M.D. If it is hormone related, she needs someone medically qualified to identify what might be wrong. Good luck!

Answer 4

hello! let's take a step back. FIRST..STOP TALKING!!! PARENTS TALK WAY TO MUCH!! Mention the issue, offer some assistance with making an appointment or getting some information and then SHUT UP!!!! I know it sounds harsh, but it's the truth. My parents were awful about no being quiet. they went on and on and on and on...it was like a power struggle. my husband's family...discuss the issue once, then they leave it alone. my hubby can tell his grandma anything and can ask for anything. Even at 30, he still can ask for medical/life advice with out being embarrassed, They learned the lesson. His grandma, mom, and dad stopped talking. no matter how good your relationship is, somethings are just not mom friendly. She is your daughter and you have the right to force her to go to the doctor, but why take a stressful situation and make it worse. First, I think you should try a therapy session or two. Alot of therapists specialize in teen issues. It's often easier to talk to someone who can't judge you. Unless her grades, social habits or behavior have dramatically changed or your worried about an eating disorder or drugs, you're being a little over concerned. It's a good idea to talk to the doctor. Keep in mind, at 16, she has patient doctor confidentiality and the doctor does not have to discuss her issues with you. Assure your daughter that whatever she tells the doctor is private. You won't interfere or persist with nagging. If she still sees a pediatrician, maybe you could make an appointment at a "grownup" doctor. If her blood tests were normal, it may just be her body type. Don't make a big deal about. You have to handle teenagers like time bombs. I'm 30 now and I have 2 sisters. It helped alot that we saw an adult doctor at 13/14 yrs. old instead of the pediatrician. It also helped that our parents offered a therapist. No one knew, unless we told them. AND...our parents never went with us to the doctor. My mom used to drop us off and go and grab a coffee or pickup milk. We'd call her cell or wait for her to return.

Answer 5

First of all I feel compelled to tell you that you CHILD'S doctor, being that your daughter is under the age of 18 and you are her legal guardian, keeping vital information from you of refusing to answer your questions is ILLEGAL. So I would recommend that you either refer her to the board and/or seek a new gp.
Secondly, have you ever heard of tough love? I have two children myself. For the most part I am a very diplomatic parent and tend to pick and choose my battles. However, when it comes to my childrens' health, I don't let down my guard. So your daughter refuses to go to the doctor and you think there may be something medicaly wrong with her??? Throw her in the car kicking and screaming, and make her go. Your child's health is not something to be lax on, lady.

Answer 6

Is she very thin? Sometimes if there's not enough body fat, period won't start. I know of a few who didn't start until 16 or 17, though it's not the norm.

I wouldn't worry about it until she's 18 and then there's still no period. If you can get her to the doctor they could do some hormone testing and perhaps find out what's going on.

Answer 7

YOU are the mother, make her go. Not that you owe her any explanation, but it would probably be helpful if you let her know that you are concerned about her health, and explain to her why. Even if she is not willing to discuss this with you, that should not stop your actions in seeking help for your daughter. Set a doctor's appointment for her then take her. This will probably be a lot easier than you think.

Answer 8

I'm sure she is scared,none of us likes to go to the doctor.Perhaps she would feel more comfortable going to a woman doctor.Sit down and have a talk with her and explain that you just have to check to be sure everything is fine.Be firm,but tell her she must go.Maybe say,Do it for me,so I feel better.I have known girls that haven't developed at that age,but they usually start their period before this time.Is she a jock,or does she have an eating disorder?These could be two causes of delayed periods.She should be checked,her future child bearing could be affected.

Answer 9

If you think she may have an eating disorder, there are several sites to help with that.

Since she's a minor, you could force her, but, really, it is her life. She needs to make her own decisions. Just let her know how concerned you are. It might make her angry to talk to her friends, but see if they know anything (if they will tell you).

Apart from that, not sure what else you can do except force her (which I disagree with).

Answer 10

I think you should respect her personal space. With 16 she is a young woman - whether she is "developed" - that's how you spell it - or not. Forcing her is violating her rights. What you can do is to inform her about puberty and menstruation and to create trust and a positive and supportive relationship. This is NOT a medical crisis and there is no reason to push her. You can create so much emotional damage and endanger your relationship with her.

Answer 11

If she won't talk to you, then maybe you can contact the school nurse and see if she can get through to her. Or if not the school nurse, then maybe someone that your daughter trusts. If that doesn't work, then you will just have to sit her down and help her understand the seriousness of what may happen if she doesn't get checked out. Maybe, do some research on the Internet and print out some info. so she can see it for herself.