What do we do with 2 overwhelming sisters?

Question

My fiance and I have 2 very pushey sisters.
His acts as if there shagging, by demanding his time constantly and is jelouse if he turns her down to do something with me.she also spends to much time dwelling about there childhood and brings him down about it. not to mention that she mothers him! yuck! she is his younger sister, to me she seems to needy. and always want to be at the center of attn.

My sister always calls to ask for money, always needs something, never looks for me unless she needs something. and disapproves of my fiance and is always trying to make me pick here over him, for instance inviting me and my son over for dinner and not him. she bad mouths him to my family and uses him as well when she needs something. when we got ingaged she asked if my ring was fake insted of tell me it was nice.

he thinks we need to leave the state to escape family i think we need to find a middle ground with theses two? can anyone help?
we already use the word no, it makes it worse.

Answer 1

Both of you have to get more assertive. Discuss with husband what you are willing to do for the sisters and what you are not. Get on the same page about how you are going to act towards them and agree that if one sister invites you or him without asking the other, you decline the invitation. Decide how much time you are going to give them each week. E.g., "I'd love to see you on Friday, but my weekend is for my family." Both of you need to say this to each sister and stick with it no matter how much they complain. If you are are firm every time about where the boundary lies they will realize they can't take advantage of you anymore. And also agree not to give your sister any money.

Answer 2

Braennvin is absolutely right.
However, if either of you are unable to do this, then leaving the area and living your own lives without all the negative influences is imperative to a peaceful life.
Get tough, or get gone!
Good luck