I have a husband, and has a daughter that is 11 and that he has sole custody of her,her mother didnt want her at the age of 2... and me and my huband have been married for 6 months but we have been together for 2 years... and me and the daughter are very close.. she loves me a lot I have been thinking about adopting her... what measures would I need to go through in order to adopt her.. will it take a long time? Or will it be up to her if she wants me to be her mother.... see I dont know please help me or give me some website to look at...
2006-12-21 06:20:26 · 6 answers · asked by TalonsMomma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My second husband adopted my two daughters from a previous marriage.
Each state has different laws concerning this type of adoption but generally here is what happens.
1st - it is not up to the child, however given her age, the presiding judge MAY ask her what she feels about it.
2nd - you and your husband must agree on the adoption
3rd - you then petition the domestic relations court for an adoption process.
4th - a home study will be done
5th - the biological mother must be informed and consent is sought....if she ignores the request for consent, she loses parental rights by default. In cases where the request is ignored however, a publication is placed for x number of days in the newspaper in Legal Notices.
After sufficient legal time has elapsed and all else is in place the adoption goes through.
FYI - the child's original birth certificate will be sealed as in any adoption. A new certificate will be issued listing you as the mother.
2006-12-21 07:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to abide by the laws of your state, but I am sure that the biological mother would have to relinquish her rights to the child. I think you should include the child on this and get her opinions as to what she would like. What difference does it make whether you adopt her or not. You are her mother in every way that counts and she looks at you that way. It could have a devastating effect on her to say that her mother didn't want her at 2. Although this might be true, a child should not be told this. It would be better for her to think that her mother gave her up so that she would have a better life that the mother could provide. I can see that you would like to adopt her, but please consider what the conversation would be if you go ahead with the plan. You sound like a wonderful person with a big heart. This child is blessed to have you. Good luck to all of you. We need more people like you who will step up to the plate and be a parent.
2006-12-21 06:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son adopted his wifes child. In CA you must be married for one year, have an official relinquishment from the other parent and file papers with the court. Also, the courts will listen to a 12 year old and what they want. Depending on your state things could be slightly different. Go on the web and check out adoption laws where you live. Good luck!
2006-12-21 06:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your local superior courthouse has the paperwork for this. go to the family legal aid and ask for the adoption paperwork. you will have to have the birth mother sign off her parental rights. if she does not contest it....it's smooth sailing. it's perferable that you have an attorney, but if you pay attention to all the legal mombo jumbo you can do it yourself.
if you cannot locate the mother, you will have to show due dillegence on having to look for her, such as advertising in a newspaper or hiring a private investigator.
2006-12-21 06:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister's husband adopted her kids like this, but the birth father had to sign papers to relinquish rights. The birth mother of your stepdaughter will have to do this.
2006-12-21 06:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by danika1066 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off all than god for woman like you iam in the same situation i just recently got married and my husband has a son from his ex girlfriend and she also didnt want him, and i would like to adopt him but hes mom wont give up the full right to my husband and i dont know why shes a worthless peace of crap......Good Luck HUN!!!!!!!!!!!Happy Holidays..............
2006-12-21 06:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by R.J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋