my friend is self harming, what should i do to stop him?

Answer 1

You can't stop him honey. I know from personal experience how distressing it is to watch someone you care about harm themselves but they do it in responce to an inner pain you can't help either. You need to be the best friend you can be. Talk to them about why they do but NEVER tell them it's wrong and never try stop them. Make suggestions of using sterile equipment and using the same instrument to cause the incisions. Yes, make sure you tell your parents what is happening, if you are a young person, because it can be emotionally stressful for you too. If you find it too hard to cope with then walk away for a bit, don't get into an argument because that will only put more stress on the person harming and could cause them to self harm even more.There are many web sites you can visit to seek further help.

Answer 2

Offer him all the emotional support you can but force the issue of self harm, as a former self harmer having someone forcfully try and stop you doesn't help because you have to have the will to stop on your own. Interferance can slow the recovery.

Answer 3

I would seek professional help try these,

Anyone affected by self-harm can phone the Self-harm Alliance helpline on 01242 578820 (Wednesdays to Sundays 7pm-8pm). There's an answer machine at all other times and call backs can be made if you wish. You can also visit their website at www.selfharmalliance.org.

and another website :-

http://www.freewebs.com/selfharm_help/

All the best - merry christmas

Answer 4

it's not something that you can stop on your own.
there are emotional problems which you're friend is trying to block out with physical pain.
you need to support him in finding a good councellor and just be there for him when he needs to talk.
don't push him into seeing someone if he doesn't want to go straight away. you need to mention the subject carefully. otherwise he may start to see you as against him.
what he needs is a good friend.

Answer 5

A friend of mine used to do it and its a form of depression,she would do it when she was sad or angry and afterwards she would say she didnt remember actually cutting herself until she was covered in blood.Get him to the doctors and they will take it from there.I hope he gets sorted but its something that can go on for many years.

Answer 6

ive got the exact same prblem but sometime i no its rude but i no she only does it for attention but she only does it wen we had a arguement nd not spi 2 each other its likes she black maling me so i have 2 be her firend everytime we do have an arguemtn i fell i have 2 be her friend never mind that u wat 2 i soppose u jus otta talk 2 the person nd see how they feel and wotsmakin them want2 do this u shoulkd talk bout consequences and se if the or she wants help theres nothin else u could do

Answer 7

look swizzle is he harming himself or elf's? If the later...don't worry plenty of those in Santa's workshop....if the former than I can tell you there is nothing you can do...except try and
understand it....people self harm in order to feel alive...is he depressed? try and have him seek cancelling or confide in you as his friend....

Answer 8

i would talk too him and ask him why he is doing this, he must be depressed and cutting himself will make him feel better about himself and in control, you really need too be a true friend too him, and help him get through this, it wont happen over night,and maybe he will need professional help, but with the support of friends n family he will soon one day realise that cutting himself isnt needed!! good luck xxx

Answer 9

hi there.

take this out of experience.

you cannot stop him.
he does this to feel alive. strange i know.
but when you feel the pain and see blood, then you...live.

do not tell the parents. they cant stop it either.

he doesnt need your support. he can stop on his own.
like someone said earlier, call a national helpline and get further advise.

Answer 10

you might want to talk to him about it and find out why he is. but dont make it where every one knows what he's doing because the roumor may spead and get out of control. if he doesn't open up think about a Counselor, but dont go to one right away all the attention and people knowing may make it worse.