Im so scared for some off reason. Ive been with my man for 5 years and we each have two boys and we are pregnant with our first together. We are getting married tomorrow at the courthouse. Im so nervous and i dont know why!!! what should i expect? Do i get him a card or a gift of anything? Do we get the judge anything? Do we dress up?!?!?! SOMEONE help ease my mind lol Thanks so much!!!!!
2006-12-21 06:14:55 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Good luck on your wedding.
2006-12-21 06:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Webballs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you've had such good run so far with your man without being married that you're afraid the rather formal step of marriage will somehow ruin it all. Examine this fear and then determine whether it is founded in real issues or not. It might just be a superstition, but it could be your subconscious trying to give you signals about things you may not have noticed about your relationship consciously, trends and such. Just remember that no marriage is perfect and you and your man (husband) will face the same problems you've faced together for 5 years (and some new ones). If you are confident you can work through them as two bound individuals, you should do well in marriage. Marriage itself is not a solution to a problem or set of problems but an affirmation of committment. It lets your significant other know that you won't just walk away, even if the problems seem insurmountable.
It sounds like you've had a biological 'marriage' already; make sure your legal marriage is done for the right reasons and your children and incipient children will benefit from it as well.
2006-12-21 06:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think EVERYONE is nervous about getting married. It's exciting!
A card or present for him is nice, I have never heard of getting the judge anything but feel free if you want to. Some people get dressed up, some don't- so do what you'd like. The ceremony is usually short, sweet and to the point.
Enjoy your special day, and relax!
2006-12-21 06:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its your preference i guess i have friends who got married at the courthouse and they wore a simple but pretty white dress and their hubby wore some slacks and a collard shirt but you could get married in a bathing suit if you wanted its all in how romantic you want it to be if you want to get your soon to be hubby a gift or card that would make it more romantic your just having pre marriage jitters or it could be nerves from pregnancy being pregnant does all kinds of things just kidding i know when i got married i saw my husband in a whole new way! we weren't just dating anymore we were going to be husband and wife and that made my love for him even stronger if you think your nervous now wait till you walk towards him and he's grinning at you! you'll be fine you can get some flowers to hold while walking down the isle don't let a courthouse wedding fool you it is still a wedding and it is still special you just don't have singing and what not so its a shorter ceremony (and you won't have to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars) talk to the courthouse and see what they allow and go from there congratulations
2006-12-21 06:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by tiffany b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can dress however you want. Some couples get each other little for their wedding, but it's not required. No gifts for the judge.
Even though you're not having a big wedding you can and should still do something special to mark the occasion. Go out for a special meal. If it's not too late to get someone to watch the kids, treat yourselves to a night at a hotel.
Most of all, enjoy! And congratulations.
2006-12-21 06:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is YOUR wedding, so dress as you would want to. Don't worry about being nervous, you're getting married at the courthouse, what could go wrong? I think things will turn out just fine. I wish you and yours the best of luck. Have a great time on your honeymoon, if you take one soon. Merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-21 06:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol youe going to b ok. just breathe. your nervou because youre taking a bigstep in your life. alhtouh youve been with your man for 5 years, suddenly youre going to be "with " you man... actually married and all that goody stuff.... and although youve been together for five years (almost as good as being married) yourtaking a legal step to make it "right",you share verything now, decisions money etc. and you can tjust pack up and lave and it be over if itgoes wrong (just making a point not talking you out of it), you hve to deal with the big hooplah.
as far as getting each other or the judge something thats a personal decision. although it would be nice to get the judge something ...im sure it would be surprising to him and be a way of letting him know you appreciate him even if it is only a tahnk you note. You dont have to dress up if you dontwant to, but its your wedding day! im sure you dont want to think about jeans and amuddy raggedy old tshirt on your wedding day. at least wear clean clothes thatare on the nicer lvel..aybe a pants suit or something if not a dress. as for him... maybe jeans and a dress shirt if youre gong casual or a suite and tie if dressier. at least match dress styles.... you wouldnt want to be in jeans and a shirt if hes wearing a suite.... okay , congratulation on the baby and getting marrried... REMEMBER TO BREATHE! (and its okay to cry)
2006-12-21 06:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath. Congrats on the wedding and baby. Being nervous is normal, you must really love him. You'll be fine, in order to relax take a nice hot bath with some bubbles, oil, tonight and in the morning. Don't expect too much, I don't know if you need to give the judge anything, and as for him marring him should be enough, but if you'd like it to be special, make him a card expressing your feelings, or a poem, buy a card, whatever sooths you and you dress as you please. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-21 06:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by short 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just nervousness. I'm Happy you decided to get married. I got married at the courthouse. You don't need to give him anything you are already giving yourselves to each other. I would however pay the person doing the ceremony. Usually 50.00 is good. I would wear a nice dress suit or dress. He should at least be in a suit. Best Wishes.
2006-12-21 06:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at the courthouse. You don't get the Judge anything. You can get your man something if you want. I dressed up in Sunday clothing, but I didn't wear a wedding dress or anything like that and you certainly don't have to dress up if you don't want to.
2006-12-21 06:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by harmony220 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why at the court house? Is you man in prison? You need not get you man a gift of card, you are already giving him two gifts that any sensible man could ever ask for. 1. A child. 2. your companionship. What more could he ask for?
You should have already decide on what to wear unless it is a last minute decision. Just wear something you can look back at and cherish the moment.
2006-12-21 06:22:32 · answer #11 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋