how do i get my husband to notice me and not the TV?

Answer 1

Well for one I don't agree with buying cute lil sexy nighties. I too am going through the same thing. And I don't feel that I should have to beg the person that I love and am married to, to spend time and want to be with me. Because those favorite movies and same old re-runs will always be there, but there is so much that a man and wife can miss out on each and everyday. I would just simply talk to him and let him know how it makes you feel, and if can't be sensitive and respect your feelings then I would tell him to pack his things and get out. Because once again there is that one man out there in the world that will want to be with you, and not sit there on the couch all lazy like all day. So I do know you feel, and I know how alone feeling that can get. So good luck to you hun, hope ya have better luck than I do :)

Answer 2

You can't keep him from noticing the TV. So many women do not realize this. You can help him notice you and the Tv by being there watching it with him, making tv related comments and snuggling up to him while he watches tv. That works for my husband, he watches but I get his affection at the same time which is really what I wanted. You can not expect men to have only you on their mind. For men once they have the woman that is something they do not have to brainstorm anymore so they just do not think about it the same anymore. What your husband may need is a little more aggression. Start to dress sexier, speak sexier, go out with your friends often and even better go out alone dressed really really nice. Stay gone for hours and do not answer your cell phone every time he calls. When you come back tell him about all you did, even if you make it up. Create a habit of it and when he gets fussy about your time away tell him you want to do things with him but you did not want to fight between the tv and your affection. Give him the choice to give your more attention and he'll feel like he is in control when you actually led him to it. He'll start to make sure he's giving your more attention because he won't want you out there for someone else to pay attention to.

Answer 3

One thing might be to not make it such an "it's either me or the TV" deal sometimes.

Here's why *lots* of guys watch TV:

You can do it without talking, it doesn't require talking, and you can remain silent while doing it. Plus there is no talking involved. In addition, it's best not to talk when watching something. Are you seeing a pattern here?

Unfortunately, when women feel "not noticed", they tend to talk more and more and more and more and more and more and more and more. This becomes kind of a buzz that most men can't hear or remember important facts from.

Not that this is right, but to temporarily silence the buzzing sound, they watch TV, knowing the rules about silence and hoping the woman doesn't want to watch rodeo and just gets up and leaves for a while.


So, right or wrong, you probably talk way too much for him to hear. Talk talk talk talk let's talk about us, the day, my day, your day, the bills, my feelings, my thoughts, my feelings again, the grocery list, the pen I use to make the grocery list, the pressure I write with, oops I broke a nail d*mmit, talk talk talk talk talk. About 3 times or more as much as a man talks.

Start by just going and curling up next to him when he has the set on. Forget this dance in a thong stuff - he'll just tell you to get out of the way. Then wait. No talking, no nudging, no "notice me, I am needy, I need to be noticed, me me me let's focus on me." Just enjoy being together. If you*really* believe that it doesn't matter what you are doing as long as you are together, start walking the walk and not just talking the talk. Don't p*ss and moan that it's not on the Cooking Channel or Rachel Ray or Lifetime for Women. Don' t b*tch that it's SportsCenter. Just sit there with him and enjoy the wonderful silence.

30-60 minutes later, say "I'm gonna grab a beer out of the fridge - want one?" If he says yes, then bring back sancks too. Yes it's no fair and yes it's sexist but it works. You bring nachos and beer back. Then ask about the game. Not something stupid like "What sport is this?" but "Why don't we get some Dodgers tickets and go to a game next spring?" Talk about what *he* likes, not what you want him to notice about you.

Sooner or later, it will become more balanced, and he will notice and talk and ask and listen. Then can say, hey watched tv for an hour, let's go to Williams -Sonoma for an hour. Fair is fair. Hey we sat silent for an hour let's talk for an hour. Like that.

But if you set it up as me versus the TV, you will lose.

Answer 4

I'm sure he notices you. The TV is just more interesting.

Answer 5

start bending over in front of the tv and start wearing sexy clothes in front of the tv thats how i do it and it works for me or turn tv off and start pleasing him.

Answer 6

sell the tv

Answer 7

Put a stripper pole in the living room and do your thing

Answer 8

I don't even bother anymore. It doesn't do any good.

and Scott.. you're a jerk. I wouldn't stay married to you for a day.

Answer 9

Throw his favorite tool right through it. I guarantee he notices you, and probaly will start sleeping with one eye open.

Answer 10

different countries, different cultures, different languages to argue on, but problems still the same with married couples, sad but true!