Why is it that when a question that evokes anger (response to homophobic remarks) or sexual natured remarks..?

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(i.e dating) there is a high number of respones? However when a question is asked that evokes empathy not many respond? I asked a question about my girlfrined having an eating disorder in the gay/lesiban section for two reasons: 1: I wanted to avoid homophobic remarks about my lifestlye when I'm triing to get a sensitive questions answered 2: I think the gay community has alot of problems with mental health as our emotions are blunted (due to being afriad to come out or shame placed by society) for so long... I thought people may have some first hand adivse for my sitaution. Sometimes when I look at how our culture presents itself I understand (not that I agree) why so many people don't understand or are even so judgemental

kingstubb-you din't answer my question. I'm not looking for an argument

Metro-bi- thank you for your honesty. Sometimes I'm just bothered by a lack of empathy in our community

bats- my question in NOT about MY homossexuality, I'm a proud lesbian, but about the lack of empathy in the community. Please read more carefully

raynebow- thankyou for your response. I belilve (but could be wrong) that thare is a high percentage of homosexuals who are treated for depressiona t some point in there lifetime ( I don't know exact percentages). Depression is a mental health issue and was what I was manily referring too.

Bradand Mrs. Possum- THANKU SO MUCH. both great answers. and have restored some of my faith in human kindness

pcpy- 1st I never used the word homophobes rather homophobic meaning afraid of homosexuality. I can respect the opoioins of people such as yourself that don't agree with my lifestyle but don't use slanderous remarks. I was triing to aovid the slanderous remarks. you are correct however they shouldn't bother me...but do. 2nd- thankyou for your adivce about my gf. I know at some point I should talk to an MD but I don't think she and I are there yet and I just wanted some ideas on how to handle the situation currently 3rd- I am sorry you got spit on!!! I respect and am VERY thank ful to our vets.

Answer 1

Here is a question for you.

Why are people that do not support homosexual life style always referred to as homophobes?

I personally do not care what one does in their home. I find it distasteful for overt public affection between any gender combinations. I am tired of homosexuals being a protected class and I believe that, by definition, that marriage is between a man and a woman. I don’t believe this make me a homophobe.

One of the reasons that you may get bad responses is because many homosexuals do not want to be "accepted", they want to be privileged and force everyone to agree with them. A person should have the right to disagree with your lifestyle and even speak out against it as long as it is not overtly harmful. I had people spit on me when I came back from Viet Nam in the early 70's. That was not their right but public sentiment prevented me from taking any direct action and I had to just accept it. When you speak of tolerance you must also speak of tolerance from the people that think and act the way you do. I am truly sorry that you received slanderous remarks but they probably really didn't hurt you and may have made some idiot feel better by letting off some steam. Nobody that has two ounces of common sense listens to ranting and name calling anyway.

Now, about your girlfriend’s problem. Eating disorders, like some other disorders are many times caused by the person’s inability to cope with their environment or themselves. Often rape victims will try to make themselves less attractive. It may be possible that your girlfriend is not comfortable with her choice of gender roles or it may be that she does not like herself. It is very unlikely that she just has to eat. She should consult a psychiatrist if this has gone to the point of being obtrusive in her life. You definitely should not be taking advice from people on the web if you think the problem is serious.

Answer 2

I saw it and didn't reply because I don't have an eating problem. Giving advice on something I know nothing about is somewhat irresponsible.

By the way. Ever thought of asking that question in the Health section??? It was a Health question. For some reason you assume anyone who's gay has expert knowledge with whatever subject you're thinking of.

Answer 3

First of all- Rosie O'Donnell loves loves loves drama and whenever she can stir some up she does. Second- IF Clay Aiken admitted he was gay- then I can see how it would be taken as "I dont want you dirty gay aids hands on me" BUT since he continues to deny that he is- no it was homophobic at all. Third- Kelly Ripa is not a homophobic person at all she made a coment I would have done the same- I hate it when people stick their hands in my face wether they're gay stright or bi. Hollywood lives for s*it like this

Answer 4

In general, it is easier for peopl to lash out then it is to show empathy. Showing empathy means you have to bear your own soul to some extent...that's a scarey thing to a lot of people.

Also, the original question about your girlfriend'd possible eating disorder is a pretty heavy so many people will avoid it because they don't want to give misinformation. These types of questions are best left to professionals.

Answer 5

Because drama and B.S seems to be more attractive & appealing than questions that require legitimate responses. This is unfortunate because i know alot of questions are being overlooked, & many of them are important. But even though u may only get a handful of answers, get what u can out of them.

p.s. The gay and lesbian communtiy have FAR LESS mental issues than the heterosexual community. Sorry to burst that bubble.

Answer 6

For people who do not like homosexuality, any question that alludes to it will cause opponents to voice negative concerns as human nature causes people to act quicker to anger than to human needs (i.e, an eating disorder). This is unfortunate as it slows the legitimate pursuit of knowledge that you were trying to obtain. It would be easier for everyone if homophobes would ignore looking at gay message boards instead of using their internet connection to spread discord among humans.

Answer 7

The gay community does have a lot of mental health problems, but do not blame society for them.

Answer 8

....So...what? Is your question about your homosexuality, or your girlfriend's eating disorder?