I am having problems accepting my decision in life to be Bi.can anyone help me?
2006-12-21 06:08:04 · 10 answers · asked by Mz.G 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
when i say help me i mean;do anyone have any good advice.
2006-12-21 06:55:30 · update #1
no one can help you is your decision - if this feeling is bothering you it means that its not O.K . people keep saying that it's normal - if that's really a normal thing you should not be feeling that. but that's not true - if you choose to keep living that life sorry but it will be hard for you to find happiness.
what is the problems with Bisexual - they want to have a man and a women - do you think that's correct - i don't think it is. think about it. or is just because you want a moment of pleasure - let me tell you that life is more than that. Jesus is your answer. seek him.
2006-12-21 06:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't know how you can be having problems! You're trying to decide whether to deal with men or women or both? That's all that's left! We can't make that decision for you! I could see if you were asking us about a decision to deal with animals! But Bi is so common now of days until it's not even a big deal anymore! Now if you're writing that you don't know whether you should be Bi or stay on the straight and narrow then I could maybe understand your question. And if that's the case, girlfriend deal with a man! They really have so much more to offer you know what I mean? A strap on doesn't seem to me like it would be the same unless it was attached to the real deal. Ok I'm getting ill! Gotta Go!
Oh I forgot! Hell yes I really accept who I am and what I do and who I do it with and that is with the almighty MAN ONLY!
2006-12-21 14:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you are upset about. I've never known of someone who has made a decision to be bi. I've known people who were bi and choose to ignore or accept that, but I don't know anyone who has looked in the mirror and said "I think I'll be bi from now on".
If you're stuggling with lining up who you are inside with who you think you are now, then I suggest doing some reading. When I was coming out, I read A LOT. I read history books by Martin Duberman, I read MIchael Sigorielles (sp?) book Queer in America, I read fiction like Geography Club and prose stories like Am I Blue? I found that learning more about gay life, culture, and society helped me feel more ok with myself.
I'm very happy and accepting of my bisexuality. It is actually one of the best parts about being me!
2006-12-21 16:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being bi-sexual in a fully committed relationship ... and my BF doesn't like to share ... it's a little harder to accept myself right now ... since I know how much I love him ... but yet a part of me still feels empty ... just be yourself ... you really don't need to label anything ... sit back and live life the way you want to ... do what makes you the happiest ... and go from there ... it's never easy ... and like my grandma always says ... life's not fair either ... lol ... !
2006-12-21 14:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it some time, it was hard for me to fully accept myself as a gay male when I came out. I had mixed emotions because of what I was taught by religion but the fact of the matter is I don't have an attraction to woman. Anyway, I hung out with an old friend of mines who's transgendered gay and saw how confident he was about himself. I have a couple of lesiban cousins and they are also confident but they've been out for more than 7 years.
2006-12-21 14:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a heterosexual Crossdresser and I have full accepted that as a fact. There really is no problem with accepting who you are. The only problem is what other people think and that frankly, is none of their concern if you are Bi or not.
It is your life. Live to love and love to live.
2006-12-21 14:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me you made the choose to swing that way, know you have to deal with it.. Have you asked yourself why your having problems? Have you been honest with yourself? Why have you choose that path? You need to sit down and ask yourself ?? and if you still want to be bi then you will have to accept that and move on... You cant worry about what other people say weather its right or wrong thats you decision and you have to live with that.
2006-12-21 14:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can help you do this. I mean, it's good to have friends who are there for u no matter what. But only YOU can allow yourself to be comfortable in your own skin. It took me about 3 yrs living as a lesbian to be fully comfortable and im happier than ive ever been now that I know how to love myself for ME.
2006-12-21 14:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I struggle a little bit because of all the religious indictrination I went through as a child but I always overcome it by remembering this one thing.
I am happier and more full of life since I embraced myself.
2006-12-21 14:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that being bi is more of an obvious choice than being just a straight gay.
(....straight gay?..... wait, hang on.... :P lol)
If it's not feeling that natural to you and causing such heartache, it may be wise to just stick with one or the other.
2006-12-21 14:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋