My husband is starting proceedings on the divorce, but I really don't want it. I am going to agree to it, but I just wonder if there is still hope to win him back after the divorce. I know that he cares about me. We have 3 great kids together. I know in a way he still loves me. How do I win him back?
2006-12-21 06:00:35 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Counseling will bring many couples back from the brink. Don't agree to the divorce if you don't want it.
2006-12-21 06:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorced couples get back together all the time. You need to evaluate this situation and make sure getting back with him would be a healthy decision. There's a reason why you are getting divorced in the first place you know. I work in a law office and we have done a lot of second divorces for couples that remarried after divorcing each other. So make a wise decision and not a lonely, scared decision before pursuing this.
2006-12-21 06:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by harmony220 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother and grandfather were married three times...to each other. I'm not sure if this was the best idea, seems they couldn't be to happy if they couldn't keep it together.
So it does happen.
But many times, it just can't work out. Divorce is a very hard thing to go through whether you're the one who wanted it or not. My advice, don't revolve your life around getting back together. If it's meant to work out, it will. Then again, later you may find someone who makes you wonder why in the world you were holding on in the first place.
It's sad for the kids though.
2006-12-21 06:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My husband is starting proceedings on the divorce, but I really don't want it. I am going to agree to it, but I just wonder if there is still hope to win him back after the divorce. I know that he cares about me. We have 3 great kids together. I know in a way he still loves me. How do I win him...
2015-08-18 18:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Vena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ned to try before the divorce! If your husband wanted to live with you vs. not living with you, he wouldn't be initiating the divorce proceedings. Probably should hone in on why he wants to divorce. I divorced because I no longer loved my wife to the point I wanted to be with her. I still have fond memories, but her actions following the divorce ("her retaliation") would never allow me to consider rejoining her.
Regardless of all that, my folks have rejoined after almost 45 years, and they seem to be happy. Who really knows what the future holds. But I wouldn't bet on hanging onto go memories and hoping your husband comes back. It's a big world out there and sometimes the hardest part is to walk away from a family, especially with small kids. Contrary to what some believe, it's very hard for a man to do that. He knows the stakes, but has decided the alternate is better....
Good luck
2006-12-21 06:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by stretch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this happen with a few people as well as myself at one time. And sometimes it will work if things changed between you, however there are a lot of times when it won't work and you are still dealing with the very thing that made you divorce to begin with. Maybe you should prolong the divorce and just take things set by set to make sure you are making the right decision. Good luck to you either way.
2006-12-21 06:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Chy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens (my aunt and her ex lived together for a number of years and still love each other...but, never remarried). My ex and I had an affair (he's been re-married for 3 years)...sex was always good, so I figured "what the hell". You don't say how long you have been separated before the divorce proceedings or the reason behind it...but, time does heal all wounds. Enough for someone (especially a guy) to admit to the world that they made a mistake? Can't answer that - but if the divorce happens, move on...live your life...let time heal - and one never knows. But, all life experiences (good and bad) makes us better people.
2006-12-21 07:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by illdoscott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay with him, then you can't go through with the divorce, you must work it out especially if you have 3 kids. Oh yea and by the way Divorces aint cheap so why get one then get back together.
2006-12-21 06:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold your breath. If it has gotten to the point of divorce, it's probably too late. If he's any kind of a man at all, he will care for the mother of his 3 kids. It's only natural. However, you have to deal with life now without him and try to make your life happy. If it is meant for you guys to ever get back together, then it will happen. Good luck.
2006-12-21 06:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by MiMi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is there going to be a divorce to begin with.
People who have good marriages don't get divorced so something went wrong.
He may still love you but sometimes that's not enough.
If you really want to know the answer to this question you'll have to ask him.
2006-12-21 06:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counseling before you two actually go through this? Marriage's can get stagnant and sometimes people need to go into counseling so they have an open forum with a neutral person to talk about the issues and work through them. If you can go with an open mind and really hear what the other is saying, then you can work through it. Sometimes some things are said that hurt, but they may be true and if you can recognize those things in yourself and if you want to change them or work on them, then I think there is hope. I wish you luck.
2006-12-21 06:07:41 · answer #11 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋