2006-12-21 05:36:45 · 50 answers · asked by Kris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remind him it's your birthday .... on your way out the door for a night on the town
2006-12-21 05:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have been together over 20 years. It took him 14 years just to remeber when my birthday was! lol
I always used to celebrate his birthday; made it a special occasion when we always did something together. I hired the sitter, made all the plans and it went off without a hitch. Yet, when my birthday rolled around, he never even said happy birthday.
Finally, after way too many years I decided it was time for a change. His birthday came and that night he came home expecting the usual. I helped the kids with homeowork and did housework and acted like it was just another day. I treated him like I always do and we talked about work and how his day was and we had a nice dinner but nothing out of the ordinary.
He sat around after dinner and I could see he was waiting for the celebration to begin. He got more antsy with each passing hour. Finally it was bed time and he looked at me and said "it doesn't feel like I'm another year older today" and I said "Really? It was your birthday? I must have forgot." I giggled myself to sleep that night. After that he suddenly remembered when my birthday was.
2006-12-21 06:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by scorpio1913 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation lots of times, but I don't think it's always "forgetting". Sometimes it's that they can't be bothered. For me, over the last 17 years of marriage, it hasn't only been birthday, it's been anniversary, christmas, mother's day, and birthday. I've tried all kinds of things - leaving reminders, leaving suggestion lists, talking to him outright, asking about plans, making my own plans, buying my own gifts and telling him it was from him - and frankly, nothing really has worked. I've cried, cajoled, nagged - tried everything. Now I just hope for the best, but often am disappointed. I guess part of me has just accepted it, although I really fight giving up.
2006-12-21 08:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. Today is my birthday and everyone has called me except my husband. I am not going to tell him that he forgot...why should I? We have been together for 10 yrs! I am not expecting anything...except a Happy Birthday from him. I really don't think that is too much to ask.
2006-12-21 06:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Candy B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband has never forgotten my birthday... and never will. I got ahold of his cell phone and put reminders in it. A week before, a few days before. the day before and on the actual birthday. I made the reminders say funny things like . "Wife's birthday in one week... don't forget... she likes diamonds" etc. Not only does it prevent him from forgetting and pissing my off... but it also gives him a laugh when the reminders come up.
2006-12-21 05:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by girlgriffin711 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on what was going on at the time alot of times people get real busy and occupied with alot of things and they just get caught up sometimes I forget what day it is and even the date sometimes just remind him it could have been an honest mistake
2006-12-21 05:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by madadanabitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you simply return the favour and forget his!Now the average man will not be bothered by this cos as far as his is concerned birthday dinners and the like are just too much.....so conclusion is dont take it too hard since man just dont see the importance or purpose of birthdays.
2006-12-21 06:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by trick*star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him.... keep it simple - - then nothing more or nothing less.
My wife will always hint at things if I forget. It's really wacky. It's like a guessing game. The longer I don't get it the madder she gets. It's really bad if I am brain dead from work.
2006-12-21 05:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People look at birthdays in different ways depending usually on how these events were handled in their own families. Don't 'personalize' or internalize it. :-) Some remember, some do not [without gentle hints].
2006-12-21 07:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're crushed. Next year put sticky notes all over the house. Send him an e-mail everyday one month prior to remind him. Don't let him forget.
2006-12-21 05:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋