my boyfriend and i have been dating for a few months and he is going to iraq for a year... he is starting to have doubts about me being faithful to him while he's gone... how can i reassure him that i will wait for him?
2006-12-21 05:35:09 · 15 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
write down how you feel about him./ put on some love songs and get his pictures out and write him a meaningful letter of how you feel. then buy some kind of project cover to keep it safe and clean. gie it to hikm, this will remind him your in love with him why he is overseas, any time he forgets and can read it and come back to his time with you. also why he is gone write him often, send him care packages and pics often and talk to im as often as you can. it is hard being away from soneone so always tell them how you feel, tell him imss him and anything else to make him feel at home.
2006-12-21 06:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband in July and in August he had orders to go to Qatar. We had only known each other for 1 month. He too had doubts that I would be faithful, yet he still stayed with me. We spoke through phone, internet and mail. When he came back in Jan, its was sooo passionate. By April we were engaged, and in August of this year we got married. I always tell him that we were together for 1 year and 5 months. He states it was 1 year. I explained to him that it is 1 year and 5 months because while he was gone for those 5 months, we had a mental and an emotional relationship, with the fact that I remained faithful to him and was with no one else. We laugh about this all the time. Now he believes that I remained faithful. Everytime he called, I always picked up the phone, not to mention that I always harrassed him with an enormous amount of e-mails...lol.
I'd say just to speak to him. Let him know that you will be there for him. Assure him that you want to speak to him anytime, morning or night (I would wake up at 3:00am to talk to my husband - boyfriend at the time). Let him know everything you feel inside and how much you want to be with him. Let him know you will wait. If you speak from your heart, it will be heard. Unless ofcourse, it is him that doesnt want to be with you or wants you to wait for him becuase he is afraid that he will not have any feelings for you when he comes back. If thats the case, make sure you get his mailing info. Keep writing to him no matter what he said before he left. This will prove your honesty and faithfullness. He will start to see how much you care and love through words on a letter. This will mean a lot to him, believe me on this one.
2006-12-21 07:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Leyanis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't he is going to think what he wants no matter what you say to him..... Just be faithful to him while he is gone and when he gets back he will know that you were honest with him and that is all that matters..........
He is leaving for along time and could be killed he has every right to worry..... But if you remain faithful and have plenty of people he trust to tell him when he gets back all will be alright Good Luck
2006-12-21 05:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to trust or believe you. If you've been honest and sincere in both words and actions and he still has doubts, there is trouble brewing. If he doesn't trust you maybe it's because he knows what's in his own heart (maybe HE is the one who isn't so trustworthy). Sometimes we have to learn the warning signs before it's too late. This is a great big one.
2006-12-21 06:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by The Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't blame him. I think probably about 50% of military wives have affairs while their hubby is off getting killed. Terrible.
Talk to him a lot. Don't get defensive. And don't LIE about anything.
Above all - don't go do things that other people can tell him and give him ideas (Oh you should have seen Jane that night - blasted out of her mind, dancing with every guy....)
Don't go out and get wasted with your girlfriends. This is where most of the trouble happens.
2006-12-21 05:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write to him all the time. Nothing says I love you like letters and cards from home. Send pictures, too. Not naughty ones, though. Those get either taken away, or passed around.
2006-12-21 05:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing other than telling him that. It is a fear inside himself that he needs to deal with. I deal with that on a daily basis. My husband has a "fear" that I'm not faithful. I resolved to myself that he either is going to trust me or not and there's nothing I can do about it.
2006-12-21 05:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by MiMi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we was faar two years ,it was a long distance relationchip.i was faithful to him,life isnt just sex or one night stands! but now we are back together and everything is fine.so,my dear everything its possible,the time its running...good luck!
2006-12-21 06:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not practical!
People care for their life!
That means life is CHEAP?
2006-12-21 05:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Amy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your promise... only time will prove it to him. just stay faithful...actions speak louder than words
2006-12-21 06:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋