We have been best friends since 6th grade and we are now 20 and been together for the past 3 years. Last night he gave me a promise ring. He explained to me what he meant by it but what does it generally mean?
2006-12-21 05:29:03 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he wants to make sure you stick around while he is still playing the field
2006-12-21 05:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be an engagement ring...not a promise ring...
A promise ring means that he will be faithful... to you until marriage... (almost like an engagement ring)...And that some day, he will give you an engagement ring.. then a wedding band...
But, I will be willing to bet that you are giving him sex, and that is his way of "keeping" you on the string... Getting what he wants, and stringing you along, and if some one else happens on the scene, you can bet that, that promise ring will go in the trash!
I would settle for an engagement ring..and forget the promise ring, because a promise is something that means that you are not worthy of him "yet"...and that if you keep waiting...you may be waiting for a very long time...
Engagements can last a few years also, but, its more than a promise ring...
I wish you well...
Jesse
2006-12-21 05:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got promise rings in junior high and high school. At 20 years of age, I think your bf is a bit old to be handing out a promise ring. But I guess it means (1) he can't afford an engagement ring, (2) he's not sure he wants to marry you but he doesn't want you to dump him, (3) he's promising to keep the bf/gf thing going for another 7-8 years without a commitment.
2006-12-21 05:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by kja63 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im 19.. my boyfriends 22 & weve been dating a year! He gave me a promise ring & I was in the same situation! But basically a promise ring is a step down from an engagement! It means he loves you & "promises" to be with you from now on! It means almost the same as in engagement but not as serious! Marriage is a HUGE step.. And in my opinion promise rings mean.. We are goin to get married..one day in the near future! Engagement rings mean.. we are gettin married soon..like a year! But you can take it anyway you would like! Everyone has their own special definition of a promise ring!
2006-12-21 05:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by lilshortyy05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A promise can be broken. It may mean a lot now but usually a relationship changes after 6 years. He's still young so maybe so are you. If youre not yet married at this time, give it 3 more years if relationship getting better or turning sour.
2006-12-21 05:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by mareko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think promise rings mean that he doesn't want to loose you but not ready to make the commitment of getting engaged. Think about it if he was planning on proposing then why not now? You can have long engagments, there is nothing wrong with that. Promise rings mean he's not ready to take on a commitment but wants to make you think he is.
2006-12-21 05:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Abundant Life 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you really gotta ask him, if you guys have been together that long, he is probably committed to you, look at it this way, you are both young, probably not a lot of money, and he wanted to get you a ring to show the world that you are his, and all the other guys better back off, but he maybe did not have the money to go a full carat or even a half.....diamonds that large are expensive for a 20 year old! I am 30 and I just have a wedding band we got at Wal Mart, ,,,it is all in your love....believe in you and him, and follow your heart...God Bless
2006-12-21 05:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The "object" of one giving a promise ring (males can receive promise rings too) is not for the mere purpose of impending marriage, but, rather, what the giver intended it to be.
It can be a promise of (forever) friends (male or female). It could be a promise of eventual marriage (between a couple) or a promise of undying love (between family members).
You're boyfriend explained his reason for the promise ring, so, what's up? Are you getting married ... in the distant future? Tell us ... purty pleasssssssssse? :)
2006-12-21 05:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A promise ring means that he wants to marry you. It's the same as an engagement ring.Your promised to him. I had one once from the man that I am now married to and that is what he told me.
2006-12-21 05:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was to cheap to spring for the big rock, an engagement ring...just kidding, sort of. I don't know how I feel about those rings. Your man is basically claiming you as his but why then can't he just commit and propose. The whole idea was just some way for someone out there to make more money.
2006-12-21 05:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Love2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me promise rings mean nohting. You should ask him what he thinks of you and if he's willing or wants to marry you int he future (6-12 months) if he can't give you an asnwer it means he doens't want to marry you or get married at all but- don't wait to have the "talk" too long. I have a friend who dated a fire fighter for over 7 years and since she got tired of waiting for him to ask- she brought up the conversation and he told her that he nver told her he wanted to get married. She waited too long to have the talk with him and wasted all those years to find out he didn't want to mary- that's so wrong! me & my bf of 4 years have had the talk but are waitng to pay off some debt so when we do get married we are beter with money. Maybe this is what you bf is waitng for. Don't wait too long thouhg- he might be getting a little too comfortable with you and you don't want that.
2006-12-21 05:35:20 · answer #11 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋