2006-12-21 05:27:44 · 25 answers · asked by Fai 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Forget about them...It is their lost!!!
2006-12-21 05:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a very long time as there is nothing worse than being betrayed by those you love or that you thought were your friends. The pain is very difficult to bear and you wonder what you have done to them that they acted like that towards you when you trusted them or loved them. All you can hope is that you will meet some new decent friends who will restore your faith in humanity.
The plus side of this experience is that, as a result of the betrayal, you will be less trusting in the future and will no longer take people to your heart as easily, and you will not put yourself in a position where you can be betrayed, so it should not happen again. Time will also heal eventually as you will have other preoccupations to fill your mind and little by little the resentment and the hurt will fade. Try to put it out of your mind, think of other things and put it behind you as a learnt experience.
Try to have a good Christmas break and start afresh in January. Bon courage!
2006-12-21 05:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by WISE OWL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are betrayed, it really really hurts...I know the feeling. I too have been betrayed. I have learned to concentrate on the genuine people who make me happy, and who I know love me. Time is a great healer, the pain will ease; but to be honest, I dont think you completely stop caring. Do your best to move on. You will get over it in time. I have gone on to meet people that have been so good to me, that their good actions have almost made up for the let downs that I have had in the past. More importantly, I have met my soul mate, and I couldnt be happier. I wish you happiness too. Merry Christmas, and a happy and prosperous new year! :o) x
2006-12-21 06:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of any way to stop feeling or thinking something directly.
The only way I've found to avoid focussing on something is to find something else to think about.
Focus on the people you can trust and the things you enjoy. Or, if they're not present, focus on achieving these things.
This is not to say you should pretend the bad stuff doesn't happen. In fact, you should set a little time to think about what has happened. Look for clues that might have warned you away from these people. This may help you avoid such betrayals in the future.
Good luck and hope you feel better soon.
2006-12-21 05:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by maxdwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a caring person, you cannot help caring for other people even if they betrayed you. Make new friends and avoid their company. Concentrate your attention on the people how really love and care for you. You cannot change your attitude towards those who betrayed you if you are a caring person.
Seasons change but people don't!
2006-12-21 05:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Hansolo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard, i guess i should try to answer that one myself. I'm thinking of meeting other new people to care about. Start a friendship with someone else so that your focusing on someone new instead of the betraying person. It might be hard but it's worth a shot. Take steps, dont just one day decide to stop talking to that person whose betrayed you, just one at a time reject them from something when they ask etc. i hope this helped. best of luck
2006-12-21 05:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by CiNdiEe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not much to go on, but I'd say: move on. Clear all the ways these people hurt you and betrayed you and then clear all the emotions and feelings connected to all of those ways.
Get rid of the emotional baggage connected to these people - they don't deserveto be cared for by you. Do different things in different ways - make changes. Be yourself and cut the connections. Good luck - be real, be you.
2006-12-21 07:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Rozzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, it seems to me that some people can turn it off and some just can't. I'm one of those who can't. No matter how much a person has hurt me in the past, I can't just write them off. For a certain period in our lives, there was love, in whatever form. What I have learned is that there is nothing wrong with still caring. You're a good person. But don't torture yourself with these feelings. Feel the emotion (caring), but then release it.
2006-12-21 06:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie's Protege 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are three types of love eros, filial, and agape. When it comes to romantic/eros love or even aspects of filial/brotherly love you should take steps to protect yourself by not lovely to such an extent on these levels untrustworthy people.
But agape or spiritual love is a different case. We should agape the world. This is an unconditional love. This does not mean we have to let these people hurt us. In fact it is possible to love from afar.
Try loving these people by sending them positive energy. If you envision such troubled people as happy healthy and enlightened it may be one of many keys in which can enable them to find healing.
Also there with always be people who betray you in life. The line of when it is too much to come back from is up to you. Recognize that people have their flaws and create room for forgiveness.
2006-12-21 05:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time and force yourself to seek out new relationships.
They don't have to be new romantic relationships, they could be
friendly, or professional, or intimate, etc. Just to gain more perspective
on people in general. In time, honestly, you'll understand those
who betrayed you as simply, sadly, and commonly being human.
You'll get beyond it and you'll let it go. Dwelling on being hurt
doesn't help though. The best "revenge" is to live well. Good luck.
2006-12-21 05:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by eselgeist 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self this question:
Exactly, what do I deserve in life?
And if people treat me like this, then there is something about the messages I am sending to them, to allow them to hurt me over and over.
Set your own rules in life and create limits.
But the most important thing: Do you really care for your self?
Imagine your self a person you care for, would you let this person got hurt or you would protect him?
2006-12-21 05:39:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋