if you had your boyfriend or girlfriend always bitching and complaining and slaming things how would you feel and what would you do but you love this person and this person loves you to?
2006-12-21 05:21:24 · 33 answers · asked by Jesenia O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's important to note that you two still love each other under these circumstances. There are people who over-reacts to any situation, he may be one of them. But if you are sure he truly loves you, there's no need to worry too much. Handle him with love and tenderness and talk to him, during peace time, what bothers him so much. What I feel, with love everything can be changed and improved and he should be no exception.
All the best.
2006-12-21 05:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by praveen_silicon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your boyfriend/girlfriend may have some kind of either stress bothering them or maybe you should sit them down and talk to them about getting help with anger management..obviously this is not normal behavior so there must be something someone can do to help this person.See a pshychologist ..or councilor is allways helpfull no matter what the situation.
2006-12-21 05:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved my husband for 10 years even though he did the same thing as your describing until the day he came home and cracked my skull and split my foot in two. I have 3 girls and I refuse for them to ever think this is acceptable get out before you end up like me or worse. A friend of mine almost was killed a few ago when her esbf threw a glass tray and it hit her so hard she suffered a skull fracture.
2006-12-21 05:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and son are the same way. LOL I had to double check that you weren't my son's girlfriend!
My men are both ADD and now that I insisted my Hubby go on Prosac, he is sooo much easier to live with! My furniture and belongings are happier too! (i.e. slamming things)
Pick a time when he or she is calm and explain that their behavior is not good for them physically (blood pressure goes way up, etc.) and how it makes your feel.
Focus on the behavior, NOT the person!
Suggest a Doctor visit may help them not get as upset.
Remind him/her how he/she feels after being upset. My son is embarrassed by his behavior after-wards.
Remember!
Focus on the behavior, NOT the person!
2006-12-21 05:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by maj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell this person that you don't enjoy their complaining and slamming things around and you can't tolerate any longer. Ask them to leave until they can control themselves. Suggest a counselor. People can't "do" anything to you unless you ALLOW them the opportunity. Stop the behavior or maybe you should move out. Either way, don't allow them to do this to you. Godloveya.
2006-12-21 05:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I truly loved this person and he loved me too. I would try everything in my power to help him out. But remember by you trying to help him out is just not enough, he has to be willing to accept he needs help and want to get help. All you could do is be their by his side. I'm sorry to say this but if he doesn't want the help you have to think real good. Is it worth staying with someone with so much anger. In the future he might even start to hit you. Remember before you could love others you must first love yourself. I wish both of you all the best!!!
2006-12-21 05:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate! Talk to them and find out what is "really" wrong. Maybe there is something bothering them and they are taking it out in this way. Maybe they are just an angry person. Who knows? You have three choices. Find out what is wrong and try to help them deal with it. Ignore the behavior and be unhappy or get out of the realtionship and find someone more fun to be with. If there really is love in the realtionship, communication is the obviouse and loving choice.
2006-12-21 05:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by girlgriffin711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had someone like that, but it wasn't all the time, but often he got mad of silly things, never did anything to me, or even speak to me in a rude manner, but he used to get really mad.
What i did was not to listen, and let him stand with his problems and his self, and later, when the waters calmed, then i talked to him, and speak about the facts. I always make him know i understood his feelings, but i asked him in that moment to understand mine, and to think more clear about the situation.
That helped him, since he didn't have someone to scream at the moment of the anger.
2006-12-21 05:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband always does that. If he's grumpy he'll start talking snotty & rude, swearing, slamming doors, whatever. I just walk out of the room. He usually gets ticked because I walked away from him in the middle of a conversation, but I just tell him that I won't talk or listen when he's acting like that.
2006-12-21 05:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a boyfriend who is constantly pissed off about something, no matter what it is. What i do is act like nothings wrong like hes not mad. It really helps b/c he calms down. I also slam things around too if he starts to. I think if you slam things with him he will stop. It worked for me. Good luck
2006-12-21 05:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Erica M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋