I think my girlfriend has an eating disorder but she deny's it? How should I handle this?

Question

I love her so much and am just worried about her. She is 5' 7" tall, medium frame and is 122 lbs. She was 133 and up to 138 when we first started dating two years ago. She has a sister who struggles with an eating disorder.

She started having trouble keeping weight on about a year ago. she even started to lose her hair. The hair lose made her go to the MD. the MD said it was beasue she got off birth control and needed vitamins. She took the vitamins and it got better. She moved up here about 5 months ago and actually put weight back on (which was nice) but in the last two months or so she's dropped a ton of weight and her hair loks thin again. She deny's any problem, won't see an MD and skip's meals saying she's not hungry.

Answer 1

Well I can't say whether it's anorexia or not since I'm not there. But it's either that or something is wrong with her physical health that is causing the lack of appetite and hair loss. 122 is roughly ten pounds below the weight range for her height.

But the fact that she refuses to see a doctor hints that it's probably an eating disorder.

Unfortunately she's always going to deny it. If she's anorexic then when she looks in the mirror she sees an image of her body that is not real. So in her mind she doesn't have a problem.

I'm wondering if you're the first serious relationship she's been in with a woman? Because having a serious relationship might have brought up some internalized homophobia that she hasn't explored yet. She's definitely wrestling with something emotional. People who restrict their eating like this are using it as a way to deal with their emotions.

She really does need to see a doctor. Is she close to her family? Is her sister in a mindset now where she knows she has a problem and is trying to fix it? If her sister is in that mindset and your gf is okay with her family she'd be the perfect person to sit her down and tell her that she's sick.

Unfortunately, it's ultimately her choice. She's an adult. It doesn't mean you should give up though. And it might be a good idea for you to go seek some counseling on this. It's not easy to watch someone you love hurt themselves and know that you can't just whisk them away and make it better.

Answer 2

You had been relationship her for at the same time and the whole lot was once usual, however now that you simply see an antidepressant, the whole lot is one-of-a-kind? Don't difference your belief approximately your female friend and do not cross replacing the way you do matters considering you presently anticipate she's fully risky. Nothing has transformed. You have to learn up on intellectual sickness. It may be very good managed by way of antidepressants, however so is persistent anguish, so she might have both. People do not talk about nor percentage their scientific historical past with each and every different and you would by and large be amazed to uncover out who you recognize and who is relatively on much more critical medicinal drugs. (Celexa is slight in comparison to psychotropic medicinal drugs) Famous film stars, authors, artists, and musicians all undergo from despair, bi polar and/or schitzophrenia...however you by and large can not identify one. Brooke Shields, Jim Carrey, Drew Barrymore, Sting, Elton John, Billy Joel, Ty Cobb, Princess Diana, and so forth. and hoards extra athletes. You do not have to manage your dating any one-of-a-kind rather then it is relatively main to admit to her that after she was once mad approximately the cellphone that you simply wish her to grasp that you simply noticed the celexa and that you're right here for her if she wishes to let you know whatever, percentage whatever, and so forth. that you will not pass judgement on her (despite the fact that it is turn flopping on your head). Always be sincere along with her. Be open and sincere approximately the way you believe and DON'T ever say the reverse to how you're feeling. ALWAYS confess the reality. Don't permit her play video games and do not play video games along with her. The main factor might under no circumstances depart her to bet whatever approximately the connection...do not ever permit her anticipate.

Answer 3

If your girlfriend's body weight is less than 85% of what would be expected from someone of her height, build, and age, anorexia may be an issue. Her apparent unwillingness to see a doctor to address her weight and hair loss could also suggest a defensive reaction against acknowledging that there might be something wrong, but you probably already knew that.

Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot you can do at this point, although I did find a website that might give you some more information:

http://www.something-fishy.org/

It's very hard to watch someone self-destruct, especially when there's not much you can do about it. I would recommend taking care of yourself and making sure you have adequate support. Please consult with a mental health professional about possibly seeking therapy to help you through this difficult situation. Maybe they will have some ideas, or know where to turn?

If nothing else, you'll be role-modeling for your girlfriend that it's okay to acknowledge and receive help for one's problems. Best of luck.

Answer 4

I think you should find out for sure before you accuse. Have you noticed a change in her diet? If you feel that she is unhealthy try recomending a better diet to her that will not cause her to gain wait. Such as a Salads, Grilled Chicken, Fruits, And assorted veggies. My girlfriend has lost alot of wait over the past couple of years. Although i feel she does not need to lose wait, i know she is doing it the healthy way. By eating the right foods.

My advice to you is to be honest with her in a caring way. Let her know you have noticed a change in her wieght and you are concerned. Be supportive of what she feels. If she wants to lose weightt, help her do it in the proper way. Good luck.

Answer 5

Well it could either be a genuine eating disorder or there's sumthing going on in her body that needs severe attention ASAP. Some illnesses cause these symptoms, loss of appetite, loss of hair, etc. You need to watch her. But dont hover. It will only irritate her. Talk to her & let her know that her condition is hurting the BOTH of you, but make sure she knpws that this is about HER. And that you feel she needs help.

Answer 6

Has she been stressed lately? Stress can do weird things including hair loss and not feeling hungry.
I know when Im stressed, I rarely eat cause I don't think about it then I don't feel hungry.

Maybe you should just sit down and talk to your gf. Find out if anythings bothering her. Maybe shes just worried about her sister and its stressing her out.
Tell her your worried about her and you love her very much and don't want her to get sick.

But like someone said, hair loss and loss of appetite are also signs of other things like cancer and other illness. She should have a check up done.

If she doesn't want to go to a doctor, don't pressure her but there is nothing wrong with saying "It'll make me feel better if you did." cause your worried :-)
Or if she just doesn't want to go alone, offer to go with her. (no one likes doctors!!!)

I hope things get better between you and your gf.

Answer 7

Get her in to counseling and treatment, but first be sure that she does have an eating disorder. Then make sure that she knows it, and what to do about it. I don't know anyone with an eating disorder, so I really can't say anything about that. Whatever your sexual orientation, this question is best answered in it relative section. Anyways I hope she gets better!

Answer 8

You say it started when you started dating, there must be a connection there.....seek couple counsling

Answer 9

ask her about it see if she says yes or no cause u may be accusing her of something shes not

Answer 10

I don't understand you girls sometimes, no offense. I don't understand why girls feel the need to be so skinny. Screw those billboards and supermodels, they look like ***** skeletons! Ew! Gross! Real women have curves. Get her some help and tell her that you really miss her bubble butt.