2006-12-21 04:59:13 · 46 answers · asked by tobys8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Fair? That is hard to say. I know that my husband and I (and many other people I know) fell in love at first sight. I have met people that I dislike on sight and I currently have 2 women in my immediate community who seem to have decided they dislike me on first sight.
Those kinds of things are instincts and there is not that much you can do about it - and frankly, it can be very helpful if you are good judge of character to know when to get the heck out of there just by the look in a person's eyes. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they carry themselves, the lines and wrinkles in their face, etc.
I don't think it is unfair to judge people at first sight, I think it helps us weed through the thousands of people and find the few we are really supposed to connect with here. I don't like the word judge, though. I will say that it is handy to be skillful at gauging a person on sight - and while you may be wrong sometimes, there are so many people out there, you will undoubtedly make up for it later with a better match (be it friend, co-worker, lover, mate) - we will always find a way to have the relationships we need.
Peace!
2006-12-21 05:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not fair to judge people at first sight.
2006-12-21 05:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have this perspective of judging people when we see them at first sight. Although it's morally wrong, we humans can't help judging people by first sight. It's just us, and even if we do say that we don't judge people like that, inside we know we do. Simple as that, my friend.
2006-12-21 05:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sid90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair or not, we all do it. It's part of the normal social functioning of the brain. It can also spare you a lot of heartache and turmoil, for frequently our first impressions are the most accurate. We don't have all the verbal input or misleading actions (people intentionally will try to hide their true nature sometimes!) to blind us to the truth. It may not be fair, but it is wise. So keep an open mind when getting to know someone, but never disregard your first impression until they have given you true reason to do so.
2006-12-21 05:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it is fair or not, we do it automatically. However, you have a choice to just accept the judgement you make or to determine whether or not it seems true, and that just depends on if you care to get to know the person. There are times where first-look judgements are necessary and helpful, like if you feel a person walking towards you looks unsafe, you should not stick around to find out. But if it's your best friend's new bf or gf, you should give them a chance.
2006-12-21 05:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lowa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not fair to judge people at first sight, but every one does it even if they do not mean to. You look at them and notice all types of things without even thinking about it. Skin color, height, weight, sex, dress, attitude, presence, etc... And from those observations people make general assumptions about that person. What they are like, how they act, their social environment, what they do, etc...
And anyone that says that they don't do this is full of C*R*A*P!!!
2006-12-21 05:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not judge anyone at first sight but unfortunately that's how it is. If you think about it, when you look at the opposite sex the first thing you are going to notice is appearance, you will either be attracted to them or not. You have just judged them....
2006-12-21 05:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by Venezuela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature, Dude. We only get one chance to make a first impression. Men, in particular, judge more quickly than women as they are visual creatures. But that's the way we are made. However, we can modify our behavior and learn to accept a person as they are. I've made lots of mistakes judging on first impressions. Some folks present themselves as being attractive and nice and when you get to know them, they are just shallow and uncaring. Give me a homely, loving person any day of the week!! Godloveya.
2006-12-21 05:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its fair, but we all do it even those that say they don't. I think its whether or not you decide to act on your first impression that really makes a difference. Never judge a book by its cover, read thru it you may like the story.
2006-12-21 05:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by boo_did_i_skeer_yah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, it is not fair.
However, prejudice does serve a purpose, that of filtering out people who you would have less in common with, would not be attracted to, or may signify a threat. Therefore there is a good reason for it, of which we are not really under control.
But it could never be fair, whatever the reasons.
2006-12-21 05:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by AlexChappel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋