I love my wife very much, but we don't feel the same excitiment as we did when we were younger.
2006-12-21 04:52:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try new things. Ask your wife out for a date. Go to a swing club. Get some counseling. Go to a bar and sit at opposite ends talking with other people and then share your experience with each other.
2006-12-21 04:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes when couples get married they seem to put everything else first then their marriage. Weather it's work, friends and especially the kids. I think it's very wrong to put each others need last. Remember we all need to work to survive but at the end of the day we all come back home to our spouse. Remember we all have friends to talk to but if you think about it. The best friend we all have is our spouse. Remember some marriages have kids in their marriage. We should enjoy them as much possible but if we loose ourselves in the middle of it all. What else is left for a married couple. The kids grow up and move on just like all the grown ups do. Try to spend quality time with her, tell her you love her, take her out for dinner, romance her like you have never done before. Give her a card expressing your love for her. Give her something that truly means more than anything. Give her all of you!!! I wish you all the luck in the world!!!!
2006-12-21 05:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Things will never be the same as when you were younger. Your life has changed and so have each of you. What you need to do is focus on always just improving today and stop wondering why things aren't like they were yesterday. EVERY couple deals with this, so you aren't in a position that no one else understands. You have to change things up, and I don't just mean sexually. The sexual part of your life may be ho hum because everything else in your life is too. Try to get out of some of the everyday ruts. Turn off the TV and play a game together. Go to the park. Take a long drive to nowhere. Anything that will involve doing something that doesn't involve focusing on other things instead of yourselves. Get a motel in your own town, just to get out of familiar surroundings for 24 hrs. This should help get you out of your rut and all aspects of your relationship will get more personal again, including your sex life.
2006-12-21 05:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by PDH 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you have to go back to the place in your heart and mind from where you started. Ask yourself why did I fall in love with this person, what was it that made me feel I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Take the answers to those questions and use them to create new passion. Start with setting up dates, try to do some of the things you did when you first met. If you have kids I know it makes it difficult, but you should at least try. Don't wait until bedtime to have sex, just hide in the closet and do it, sure it might be a quickie, but a quick raw passionate quickie.... Catch a movie, dinner dates, lunch dates if you work near by. Brushing your fingers against her butt as you pass her by in the kitchen cooking, or getting close to her and saying naughty things in her ears, while she is cooking or in public. Tell her if you could, what you would do to her right now. And she should do similar things. Hope this helps.
2006-12-21 05:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age brings certain changes in atitude. Plan a holiday and treat her the way you treated her when you were newly married. When ever possible go for outings and enjoy like youngsters. That may bring back the excitement you experienced earlier. Life should not be a boring routine for her. Make her feel excited first and then expect the same passion.
2006-12-21 05:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by rams 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do not feel the same as when you were younger. People evolve as life experiences go on. The excitement you felt then was because it was all so new. Start to see each moment as a new experience and you'll find a fire that wasn't there when you first began.
2006-12-21 06:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell who do you have to work on it just like working on your favorite car me and my husband have 5 kids 2 teenagers 1 twenty yearold who just moved back with us and a 3 year with a 6 month old We sometimes feel so wore out but on those days that we get to spend alone like when we make a date with each other we are back in love all over again some times we even do it in the car in front of the house just to make it exciting
2006-12-21 04:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by slpry L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can,t eather you have it or you don,t and it takes two so good luck on this one time changes everything I don,t know how old you are but you are changing don,t worry about it but it will never be the what you remember I read what other people had to say about this and if it is just sex you want then you can spice it up a million different ways but none of them will last
2006-12-21 06:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start treating her like a girlfriend. Take her out on dates, buy her small gifts or flowers just because.Call her in the middle of the day just to let her know you are thinking about her. Try to think like you are not married. Make out at the movie theater. Change your style-new clothes or hair cut,etc. Take dancing classes together.
2006-12-21 05:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think back to when you had that excitment and try some of the things you did back then. Be daring. Be creative. Start dating her all over again and find the reasons you fell in love in the first place.
2006-12-21 04:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by Love2 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋